"Dad, how were you and mom together?"
When his original wife died, Yan Duojin, the eldest daughter, was eight years old. For her mother, even after more than ten years, her memory of each other was firmly stored in the depths of the sea.
In Yan Duojin's memory, her mother is a hot woman, straightforward and smooth. Now the single family can have such a foundation, which has something to do with her original pay. In the family, the other party is also a very excellent mother. Even if she wants a son because of old ideas, she doesn't ignore the daughters in front of them.
What's more, being able to make such an excellent father miss for half his life and never marry again for the rest of his life is enough to prove the charm of his mother and the feelings of both parents.
"At that time, we were different from you. There were only a few ways to find someone, including parents' introduction, colleagues' introduction and relatives' introduction. Only a few people were looking for someone by themselves. At that time, they were not interested in falling in love. If they looked at each other's eyes and their family background was appropriate, they could decide to pull the marriage certificate, and then they came over all their life. Your mother and I were introduced by relatives on the first day After the matchmaker got a positive answer on both sides, she and I went to see a movie the next day, went to the park the third day, and then the marriage was settled. After that, the elders on both sides talked about the bride price and dowry. After these processes, your mother and I got married a month later. "
Yan Chu repeated what he had seen in his original memory.
"Just a blind date?" Yan Duojin was a little surprised. In the past, his father rarely mentioned things about his mother. Their sisters were also his father. They were afraid of being hurt by the scenery. They also paid attention to this when they talked on weekdays.
She always thought that her father could be single for her mother for the rest of her life. It must be because they had a vigorous relationship before. Now it seems that she thinks too much?
"Did your heart beat faster and fell in love at first sight when you saw your mother on the first day?" Yan Duojin couldn't help asking.
"Where is so mysterious."
Yan Chu couldn't help laughing and touched his daughter's head, "There are many brothers and sisters in your mother's family. When she was young, she and the first pair of brothers and sisters were sent to her grandmother's house in the countryside. She didn't return to the city until she was old enough to find a partner. At that time, she was black, tied with two braids, wearing a newly made dark blue shirt and looked a little stiff. At that time, I thought she was not good. I wanted your milk to connect with the red man in the middle of the bridge, We don't like your mother. "
Although he said derogatory words, Yan Chu's face wore a warm smile of remembrance. Yan Duojin understood that even if his father didn't like his mother at the beginning, he must have changed his outlook on her mother later, otherwise he wouldn't talk about the events of that year with such an attitude.
"But it's different from your mother. Your father was so handsome when I was young. I still had a high school diploma. On the day of my blind date, your milk helped me straighten up. It looks gentle. Your mother just saw my eyes straight. If she wanted to say love at first sight, she might really be like this."
"Dad, since you didn't like my mother at the beginning, how did you two become again?" Yan Duojin asked anxiously.
Yan Chu patted his daughter on the shoulder and motioned her not to worry.
"Didn't I say before that when we were looking for someone, we were more interested in the family and both parents. At that time, I didn't like your mother, but your mother was interested. They thought your mother was strong, hardworking and refreshing. This was more to your grandmother's appetite. At that time, she always thought I was gentle and needed this one A hot woman neutralizes my temper. Since everyone around me said yes, I thought I'd try it, so I asked your mother to see a movie and go to the park. In getting along, I thought your mother was a suitable person to live as your father said, so we should get married, and then we got married, and then we had you. "
At that time, the marriage was not so complicated. If it was appropriate to get married, there was nothing to love or not. Make do with it. Have children. If there was no accident, it would come over all your life.
What Yan Chu said was quite different from the stories of his sisters' Fantasy parents. Yan Duojin looked down and thought of himself with some disappointment.
"Dad, what kind of feelings do you have for your mother? Is it your responsibility?"
Yan Duojin thought of himself from his parents' marriage. At present, Yao Zhan is really the most suitable one for her. In particular, the two families cooperate harmoniously. If they can really be together, they can also strengthen the cooperative relationship between the two families. This is a win-win thing.
She doesn't seem to need to consider other more complicated situations.
Yan Chu saw the eldest daughter's mind and couldn't help sighing. Then he straightened her sitting posture and let her look at herself face to face.
"In the age when your mother and I were married, the cultivation of feelings was mainly after marriage. Is there love? That must be true, but more couples supported their marriage, which was both responsibility and family affection."
Some lucky couples find that each other is the right partner for them during their marriage, and love gradually sprouts. They are lucky. There are also some couples who do not fall in love with each other during their marriage, but breed family affection. They support each other and accompany each other for the rest of their life, And most of their time.
It is their sense of responsibility that tests the latter half of the couples.
In the 1970s and 1980s, material life had just been basically satisfied. Many people didn't have the spare time to pursue spiritual prosperity. Husband and wife lived together around daily necessities and children's parents.
After the 1990s, people's material level has improved and their entertainment life has become richer. At this time, the test will come.
Men dislike that their wives are not beautiful enough. No women outside will dress up. They dislike that their wives are not gentle enough. They only know that they care about every penny for a dime and three cents. They are not like women outside. They are knowledgeable and gentle.
Similarly, women will also dislike their husbands. No other husband will make money. They dislike that her husband does not give her a good enough life, and the women whose husband can make money may dislike that the other party does not have enough time to accompany them. Compared with the temptation of sweet words around them, the current marriage is not good.
At this time, they will think that the beginning of this marriage is only from the arrangement of the family, just making do with living together, and breaking this wrong marriage yoke is the beginning of freedom.
Divorce began to become frequent and justifiable, just as scholars in the Republic of China proudly held a new and progressive wife and said no to the original wife who was married openly. It was just like the original marriage was carried out by others with a knife on their neck, and they completely forgot the poor woman who was equally painful in this marriage.
At this time, responsibility becomes extremely important.
No matter how tempting the outside world is, responsible people will remember who accompanied them through difficult days, who gave birth to their children, and who followed them to honor their elders.
The world does not run only by love. In addition to love, there are other things worth adhering to.
It's just before you don't choose the other half. Since you chose it at the beginning, you should understand and understand each other in the future marriage, instead of ending the marriage with the sentence that you and I have no feelings under the temptation of the outside world.
Yan Chu didn't know whether he had ever loved his wife, but it was certain that he was a man in charge before the strange Zhong Xiaoduo appeared.
"But."
When Yan Duojin thought that her father wanted to teach her that the most important thing in marriage was responsibility, Yan Chu suddenly changed his words.
"We had no choice at that time. Everyone said that when you were not young, you had to go on a blind date and get married. Everyone said that the object was suitable for you, you had to prove it with him. That society is like this. You can't innovate. You can only live step by step according to the planned life."
Yan Chu pinned the fine hair on the temples behind her ears for her daughter, and looked at her daughter with incomparable kindness: "I like this era, because it can accommodate more voices."
"I hope that when you lead your boyfriend to appear in front of your father, it is because he is the person you like, not just a suitable person. I hope that one day I will take your hand and hand you over to another man, because you love him, because you want to marry him, not because others say that when you are old, you should get married and have children. Then Is not correct. "
"Dabao, Dad hopes that in your marriage in the future, you will not only have responsibility, but also love."
Yan Duojin looked puzzled, Yan Chu smiled: "Don't worry, dad is very open-minded. If you don't find the one you really want to marry, we'll fall in love all our life. One day, if you bring a girl back and say it's the woman you like, dad also supports it with both hands. But one thing dad wants you to remember, that is, don't get married for marriage. It's not Dad's wish to make do with life What you see. "
Yan Chu didn't think that a mutually suitable marriage was bad, but because Yan Duojin was his daughter, he wanted her to live better.
"Dad."
Yan Duojin's eyes were slightly red. He couldn't help burying his head in his father's chest, and then hugged him tightly.
She felt that her father should know her recent troubles. What he just said was also his suggestion as a father.
To tell the truth, marriage in this circle is not a strange thing. As early as when he decided to inherit the Yan family, Yan Duojin was ready to find a husband with a similar family background and good for the development of the Yan family. Yao Zhan was such a person. He didn't like anything, just because he was suitable for each other.
Just as Yao Zhan was satisfied with her, it was only because of the combination of interests.
But now her father's meaning is clearly that she just wants her to simply find a man she likes, not a husband who is good for Yan.
Yan Duojin felt that the luckiest thing in her life was to have such a wise and loving father.