Chapter 195

I have a college classmate. When I first met her, I just thought that she was a good person. She could take care of people and not lose her temper. The key is to be calm. After deep communication, she told me: "in fact, the main reason for my good character is my inferiority complex. I'm afraid to offend someone. Therefore, I can only be good to everyone." I asked, "why do you feel inferior? Do you study so well? " She was a little embarrassed and said, "my family is very poor. I borrowed all the money from college. I can't eat well and dress well, especially when I go to university and see so many bright people, I feel very humble. " Also, almost everyone in the school has a laptop, and most of them already have a smart phone. But she doesn't have a computer or a mobile phone. Her only way to contact the outside world is hearsay. The advantage of this is that she can devote herself to her study, and she does quite well. She can get the national scholarship every year. The first time I heard that she had won the scholarship, I was even happier than her. I thought to myself that she could use the money to buy an ordinary computer or a smart phone, so that she could learn about the outside world on the Internet. But it turned out that a year later, she didn't buy anything.

One day, I asked her, "how did you spend your scholarship?" She looked surprised and said, "how do you spend it? It's too late to pay the bill? Besides the tuition, my parents have to pay back all the money they borrowed. "

Think about it, too. It's not easy to borrow money. It's a good plan to return it first. The next year, when she received the scholarship, her life still did not improve. When I was idle, I asked her how to spend the money. She said with some pride, "my brother is married and short of money to buy a house. I gave him more than 10000 yuan." I said angrily, "if your brother doesn't have your 10000 yuan, can't he afford to buy a house?" "Of course, I can afford it, but I have to borrow someone else's money. If I have money, I will give it to him first, but I don't have to pay it back," she said I didn't ask her again when the scholarship was awarded in the third year.

In her senior year, she decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination. Learning so excellent, and other skills are not, it seems that only one way to postgraduate entrance examination. Postgraduate entrance examination needs to buy the real questions of the school, because that school is better confidential, so there are not many and incomplete online questions, which can be bought through some counseling institutions, but the price is much more expensive. She frowned and said to everyone she met, "what can I do? I can't find the real topic." She was advised to buy a set for two or three hundred yuan Every time she said, "it's too expensive to buy." So, she spent more than a month, every day to the school's electronic reading room, 708 landing to find all the information. She felt that it was a matter of great achievement. She saved two or three hundred yuan in one month!

At the end of postgraduate entrance examination, her score is on the edge, so she can only wait for the notice of retest. Normally, at this time, you have to keep staring at the computer

, refresh the page to see if there is the latest news. But she did not have a computer, very inconvenient, only free time to go to the school computer room to see. That day, the school out of the school transfer information, but two in the afternoon, so that before four, you have to send the information in the past, that is to say, you must complete in two hours. After a nap, when I woke up, I saw the news on the postgraduate entrance examination website. It was already 3:30 at that time. I called her and she said she was in the study room and didn't see it. Then, I called her admissions office and asked her to sign up first. Unexpectedly, the quota was full. No matter how high the score was, it was too late. She cried darkly and complained that the time given by the school was too short, but she did not think that it was much more important to get information in time than to learn more knowledge at that key node.

Fortunately, because of her high score, she has several good schools to adjust. She chose one in Beijing, but she was brushed off during the interview. I said, you try a few more, so many good schools can go, her first reaction is: "this trip to Beijing cost five or six hundred yuan, but also failed, wasted.". Go to other schools again, spend money, can't pass the examination again, how to do? " What's the logic? In front of the future and money, her first consideration is money. At this time, she seems to have forgotten a year's night fighting and wasted so high scores. At that time, I thought, maybe her desire for postgraduate education is not so strong, and giving up may not be a bad thing.

Before graduation, she had been preparing to test for the teacher in her hometown. When chatting, I said: "it's good to be a teacher. It can solve the burden of the family". She, who has always been steady, suddenly said: "can I go to work and take the postgraduate entrance examination at the same time?" I'm surprised. "Why didn't you choose a school when you wanted to go to graduate school? Or, you can stay in school for half a year and prepare for the exam wholeheartedly. After work, how can I have time to review? " She still used money to answer me, "I still have to spend money in school. When I become a teacher, I will get a salary. I can support myself and take the exam again." Think about it, if there is no money, after graduation is really embarrassed to spend at home. Then one day, her wallet was stolen, and I asked, "is your bank card in it?" She said yes. I asked casually, "is there any money in it?" She said, "yes, but the thief should not be able to take it out." Why? " The five thousand yuan in it is fixed deposit, which is not easy to take out. " Then, I was petrified in an instant.

If 5000 yuan is not saved regularly, if 5000 yuan can be spent, it will not take one month to find information. If you use this month to prepare for the exam, you may get more marks; You can go to a few more schools for re examination. Maybe you can go to a better school than the first volunteer; You don't have to ask for money from home. You can continue to prepare for the exam in school for half a year, devote yourself to it, and succeed once; Of course, you can buy a smart phone with even a few hundred yuan, refresh the web page, and you won't miss the dispensing information.

Our hometown thinks that this kind of people are "afraid of poverty". Because I have been poor, I always think about money before I do anything. As everyone knows, the more you think about money first, the more you lose the chance to make more money. I also have a good friend who is much poorer than her. She is not as good as her in study and scholarship. But he invested all that money in himself. That year, he decided to take the entrance examination of Beijing Film Academy. He took out all his money and went to Beiying to attend a very expensive tutorial class. He traveled between the school and Beijing by train for more than ten times, and then he won the examination once. Now, he pays at least 1000 yuan for a film review, and in a year's time, he will have the rest of the money to supply his family. Many people say that schools like Xiang Beiying and Zhongxi can only be attended by the children of rich families. But as a good friend who is very poor, I am not afraid at all. I just rely on my own strength to complete my own gorgeous turn. Poor people love to talk about the unfairness of the world, but in the final analysis, it is the result of their choices. How to make the greatest achievements on the basis of limited material is what we really want to think about, not just how to enrich material wealth. No matter how rich a person is, if he doesn't have a big pattern, he will decline one day. The size of the pattern, to a large extent, determines how our life will go. Less is better than more. Making money is much more important than saving money. " "Money first" is one kind of poverty thinking, but there is also a deep-rooted poverty thinking mode, that is "hatred of the rich". Some time ago, there was a post on the Internet. One girl complained to another rich girl in the dormitory. The main complaint she cited was: "when I was a freshman, I used Apple Computer and apple mobile phone. I was just showing off my wealth."; It's shameless for her boyfriend to drive to pick her up; After shopping in the mall, putting the shopping bag on the table is like showing it to us on purpose; Spending money is like running water, the price of a piece of clothing has caught up with our cost of living for a month... "In the whole post, the girl was slandered, and all kinds of feelings of hating the rich were vented. It seems that it is natural for the poor to look down on the rich. This girl who is going to university may not know that after graduation, she will meet more and richer people. Sometimes, she may be your neighbor, your colleague, or even a classmate who was not as good as you before. How can she live? If your attitude is wrong, then everything in your eyes must be better. If we change our mindset, will life be much better. For example, she uses an apple computer and a mobile phone. Can we learn more about jobs' achievements, what interesting apps he has, and how it is different from other brands? In my opinion, it's a good thing that someone in the dormitory uses a mobile phone of different brands, which is better than everyone using Samsung; For example, her clothes are all famous brands. Can we girls learn about all kinds of women's clothing brands? Maybe we can use that brand of evening dress when we go to the party in the future; For example, she puts on fine smoky make-up every day. We can learn from her. After college, no one is willing to teach you this. Since life has been arranged like this, it's better to learn than hate. Everyone has a good side. It's ability to learn something nutritious from different people. Poverty can easily tilt a person's eyes, but it can also easily shape a person. The key is not to be immersed in poverty, but to think about everything with poverty thinking. At any time, we must remember that the only way to get rid of poverty is to learn, learn from all kinds of things and different people, and to provide for ourselves is more important than anything.