Chapter 1193

Summer then said, "actually I don't like the words" climb up "and" marry down. "

"Why?" Kong Kun said.

Summer said: "I think these two words are too utilitarian. When two people get married, it must be because they are attracted to each other, appreciate each other's advantages and have a good personality. At the moment of marriage, such two people must think that they are the happiest people in the world. Gaopan and Xiajia are somewhat helpless. Gaopan looks down on himself and Xiajia looks down on others. If you are so wronged, why do you want to get married? "

"GA - brother Xia, that's right!" Xia Yu said.

Summer said, "have you all seen Alice in Wonderland?"

Everybody nodded.

"In fact, I don't agree with aunt Imogen in Alice in Wonderland, who doesn't conform to the reality to wait for a person who is illusory, imagined by herself and will never appear," summer said. There are no perfect people in this world. We should see more about the advantages of others. As long as the other party has no moral problems, and has the most basic kindness, responsibility and openness, we should give the other party a chance.

"In fact, giving others a chance is also giving yourself a chance. None of us want to die alone. We should learn to appreciate an imperfect person with perfect eyes. I have read a sentence before, saying that there is no one with 100 points in the world, only two with 50 points. But there is a premise that many people ignore. 50 points is OK, but the 50 points must come from the same or similar values and outlook on life.

"For example, if you get 50 points in English and I get 50 points in Chinese, we can't speak the language. We can't even communicate with each other. We can't talk with each other every day."

Everybody nodded.

Haifeng then interjected: "all outsiders can't understand the matter of finding a partner. Only the authorities themselves know it. People may often feel sorry for a lot of feelings. For example, sometimes the two people who broke up or divorced are very kind, and everyone takes good care of them, but they are really separated.

"Not any two kind-hearted people will get married and live well together. It depends on whether they have more in common in their common life. If they have more in common, they will be more likely to come together."

Summer nodded and said, "there is still a long way to go. I may have a long way to go before I get married. But I still say that my life is not a ceremony to live for others. I will be kind to myself. I hope that when I am no longer young, looking back at the road I have gone through, I can say to myself with a clear conscience: you have always lived for yourself, you have done it, and you have done it well

"Ha ha Bless myself, I believe I will have good luck, I have the courage to face the future wind and rain. I firmly believe that on the way to the future, I can walk out of my own wonderful life with my own firm steps

"That's great! You will find the most suitable partner in the future Qiu Tong said.

Xia Yu looks at Qiu Tong again, what do you want to say? He doesn't open his mouth.

Haifeng said with emotion: "along the way of life, I will meet all kinds of people, and few of them can really accompany me. Long life, is to rely on their own to go. A lot of people live for others. In fact, life is their own. We shouldn't just live for others. There are so many people in the world that it is difficult for one person to meet thousands of people's needs. Since it is difficult to meet thousands of people's needs, why bother yourself? Be true to yourself! Don't care about all kinds of distractions, just be yourself

"Well..." Xia Yu nodded: "I must be the most true self! Do people have to live for others? I don't think so. Fame and wealth, money, power, desire, intrigue, living with masks every day, I'm really tired. If life is like this, I think it's better to die. "

Listen to Xia Yu's words, Haizhu's expression is slightly uneasy.

Qiutong looked at Xiayu, Haizhu and me. She pursed her lips and said softly, "in fact, in each of our lives, you can't change the environment, but you can change yourself. Because young, so will experience some things, such as love, such as friendship. No one can live happily every day forever. No one can be calm in the face of their own strong and weak.

"What makes us mature is what we have experienced and what we have suffered. What makes us happy is tolerant and loving. Let us feel at ease, is to understand, is to trust You can't change the facts, but you can change your attitude. Of course, I don't know why, some things just can't be changed.

"Maybe it's because I haven't found my real dream. Perhaps, still in pursuit of that will never be perfect. Once upon a time, we were vain, fanciful, and striving for narrow goals. When we look back at all these things, we feel that many things are gone You can't change the past, but you can change the present. Let bygones be bygones and they will go better in the future.

"Life will be better if we abandon unnecessary burdens. Life is so short, why not live a good life. There are too many things to do in your short life, and there are very important people waiting for you to cherish. Don't look back. The world ahead is more wonderful. "Qiu Tong's words were quite meaningful, and everyone listened attentively

Summer nodded and took Qiu Tong's words: "yes, in everyone's life, you can't control others, but you can control yourself. You have to go your own way, even though it is very rough, even though it is very steep, but you still forge ahead. You are your own, and no one has the right to control your destiny. Even though there will be many difficulties and scars, you must not hesitate or regret.

"In this way, when you look back, you can point to the road full of pain and tears and say in a loud and proud voice: look, this is the way I came out! You can't predict tomorrow, but you can grasp today. Gideon said this: there is a fork in the forest, I would like to choose the path with less footprints, so my life will be different.

"When more people walk along a road, it's always muddy and dusty. Why not take another road? Maybe everything will be different. Hold on to your own today, then tomorrow will definitely be better. "

When saying this, summer's eyes have been looking at Qiutong, with some encouragement and warm color.

Summer this words seem to say to everybody, but I seem to think it is aimed at Qiutong.

Qiu Tong looked at the table and said nothing.

My heart is slightly rippled with acid.

You can't control the weather, but you can change your mood. If you smile at life, life smiles at you. Let the heart no longer repress, let it free. Let the free heart fly, to meet the gorgeous sunshine! Let it fly between the blue sky and the white clouds.

You can't choose your face, but you can smile. To meet and accompany ten million people in real life. True trust of a friend is happiness. At least, no matter at any time, no matter what you do, no matter what kind of environment you face, you all know that there is such a person waiting for you to go back. I hope to have such a person who can share all my happiness and sadness and see my strength and weakness

Sitting on the wine table, looking at these familiar faces around, suddenly there is a strange feeling in my heart. I can't help but rise and fall

In the evening, when I got back to the dormitory, my mother called and asked me about my schedule.

I talked with my mother and told me to go back with Haifeng Haizhu cloud. My mother was very happy and talked about the specific matters of engagement and betrothal gifts with me.

"Xiao Ke, don't worry about the betrothal gifts. Your parents have been ready for a long time." Mom said.

"Why?" I said.

"Ha ha My parents know that you have money in your hands, but they also have saved money these years. This money can't be paid by you. My son is engaged to your father. I have to negotiate with your father about this money. We will give you 100000 yuan for the betrothal gift of engagement, which means it's perfect and lucky. Other matters will be handled according to our local customs. " Mom said.

"Mom - but -"

"it's nothing, but it's not good to be polite with mom and Dad What do parents save for these years? Isn't it for my son to marry his wife? It's settled. Save the money in your hand to buy a house and furniture when you get married. " Mom can't help but decide.

It seems that I don't need Haizhu to pay for the engagement.

Then, my mother told me about inviting the Haizhu family to dinner. I suggested to find a hotel in ningzhou. My mother agreed and told me something else. Then she hung up happily.

I put down my cell phone and Haizhu was sitting watching me.

"My mother has the money for engagement ready, you don't have to give me money!" I said.

"Oh..." Haizhu looked at me unexpectedly: "this It's not very good. It's not easy for your parents to save money. They all get paid. "

I said: "the old man's mind, do not let them out, they will not be happy!"

Haizhu laughed: "well I'm ready for you. I don't think I can use it

I said, "go to the hotel for dinner. I want to book Nanyuan hotel."

Haizhu said, "OK, listen to you!"

I half lay on the sofa and looked at Haizhu: "we all know about our engagement It's not a big deal. It's a big deal. "

Haizhu said, "what? It's not to be afraid of others. Are you worried that others will know? "

I said, "that's not..."

In spite of that, there is always a sense of not being practical in my heart.

From time to time, Dong'Er gushes into my heart. I'm worried that Dong'Er might suddenly appear at the scene of engagement. That's bad.

"I think it's easier for us to make the engagement. We'll have dinner together," I said. "Don't disturb the other seven aunts and eight aunts."

Haizhu said, "Oh, well, I'll call my parents and talk to them."

Haizhu then touched the phone, did not call his parents, but first called Haifeng, said what I mean, Haifeng did not have any opinions, directly agreed.Then Haizhu called her parents and they agreed.

Haizhu finished the call, I said: "I'm not afraid to pay for a treat. I just don't think it's too extravagant to make an engagement and don't disturb so many people."

Haizhu looked at me: "are you explaining to me? I didn't express any unhappiness... "

I was speechless for a moment.

Haizhu said: "if you don't want to make a high profile, I don't mind if no one informs me when you get married!"

I said: "I don't mean that. We should follow the customs of our hometown when we get married."

Haizhu laughed. "Anyway, it has the final say, whatever I do, I will listen to you. I don't mind what to do I'm not really a person who values form very much. "

It seems that Haizhu is still thinking about what everyone said at dinner tonight.