83 The Affidavit Anna and Lu Jinhu's Relationship - Part 2

*** WARNING - this chapter and the following chapters cover issues relating to domestic violence.These themes will continue throughout the balance of the story.Please be careful when reading this material ***

Thursday, continued ...

[Anna is still typing her affidavit]

As noted previously Lu Jinhu and I were in a de facto relationship.We initially met at University, when I was completing my Bachelor of Commerce and Bachelor of Laws degree and were living in the same university college.We dated on and off through university but, as I felt that Lu Jinhu was not committed to our relationship, I refused to allow it to be anything more than the occasional date.

My undergraduate degree was awarded on [ALFRED check my degree on my office wall for the exact date of awarding], and I graduated with with First Class Honours in Law, and Honours in Commerce.My marks saw the university offer me the opportunity to complete a Masters Degree by Research looking towards completing a Doctoral Degree.Additionally I received multiple employment offers.I selected my the position I have with my current employers, and my legal representatives in this matter ANX Lawyers, undertaking work in a variety of fields including commercial law, criminal law and family law to name a few.

After I completed my undergraduate degree, I completed through the university my professional qualifications.While this was formally awarded on [Note – ALFRED again check the certificate in my office for the date], I was admitted as Legal Practitioner on [Note – ALFRED check all the admission dates on the certificates].

As soon as I completed these professional qualifications, I commenced my employment.Lu Jinhu finished his undergraduate degree approximately 4 months later.During this time, we communicated.When he arrived in Melbourne he literally turned up on my doorstep, indicating that he wanted a relationship with me, and this was when our relationship commenced.

As I was well aware of Lu Jinhu's activities at university, before we commenced a s*xual relationship I demanded, and I believe he felt it demeaning, that he undergo screening for s*xually transmitted diseases.The results were negative, after which we commenced a s*xual relationship.My employment requires annual full medical reviews to determine any impacts on out ability to travel and meet client's needs.As part of that we are re-screened for sexually transmitted diseases.My last medical review was just on 2 months prior to the swearing of this affidavit.The screen as part of that review did not detect any s*xually transmitted diseases.

Based on the material in the balance of this affidavit, and applying my professional skill and knowledge, I say that that Lu Jinhu engaged in psychological and economic abuse, as a means of inflicting domestic violence upon me.As at the time of swearing this affidavit I cannot recall any incidents of physical violence or any other forms of domestic violence.

During our relationship if Lu Jinhu did not like any of my long-term friends, he slowly poisoned my mind against them, do everything to eventually push them out of my life.A number of these friends commented to me that Lu Jinhu was lying to me; using me; and manipulating me.However I was invested our relationship and believed Lu Jinhu over these people when he denied their claims of poisoning relationship through his actions.Over the long-term, which I did not realise at the time Lu Jinhu isolated my from friends he did not approve of.My friends had to be his friends and if they fell out of favour they were pushed from out lives.If I listed every example of his actions I can recall I would have to add 30 or 40 pages to this affidavit to provide the court all the information.

One example, comes from three years ago.A high school friend fell sick with cancer, and it was questionable if she would survive.As her treating hospital was near then home, I visited this friend 4 or 5 times per week.About 3 weeks after her admission, Lu Jinhu found out that I was visiting her and told me he was accompanying me on the visit.He knew I wanted to spend at least an hour with this friend, but within 5 minutes of arrival his complaining was enough that I told him to stop it.By the time another 10 minutes passed, his sulking was such that I ended the visit with my friend.I apologised to my friend, and told her I would see her soon.

However Lu Jinhu spent the balance of that day and the next morning pressuring me not to visit her, claiming my visits were trying her out.Lu Jinhu, however made sure that he accompanied me on almost every visit and his actions on every visit were to constantly tell me that I should leave my friend alone to deal with her treatment, until I the visits became shorter and shorter.

At home. Lu Jinhu kept pressuring me about whether my visits were making a difference, and whether I should remain her friend.As I saw only after my friend died, and I received a letter from her husband, Lu Jinhu was causing me to become more distant from my friend.I refused to accept her version of what was happening with our friendship because of Lu Jinhu, and this eventually led to her refusing to accept further visits from me.

My friend survived that cancer scare, but her cancer came back approximately 12 months ago, but this time she lost her battle with cancer 7 months after it resurfaced.While she was in this second cancer fight that she lost I attempted to make contact with her but she refused to have anything to do with me.At her funeral her husband handed me a letter that explained why she ended our friendship, detailing Lu Jihnu's actions towards her both in and out of my presence.I had not realised or accepted what he had done until I read this letter.[Note – ALFRED the original letter is in our deeds system in a packet in my name, should we attach it?].