Chapter 284

This practical need also causes the universal problem of students. They study very well and have strong professional knowledge and even Eq. But they have never had the freedom to think about what they want to do, what they want to do and what they can do.

In the busy academic, even when they are adults, they are unable to solve the problem of physical and mental development that should be solved when they are young.

This leads to self-identity and role confusion. In line with the social question answering method that social questions are a box and everything can be filled in, I'll take the trouble to give my friends who want to seriously think about this problem a brief idea:

First of all, the ultimate opposites of "ego" are actually "Id" and "superego", followed by "environment".

The whole task of the ego is to cover up the excessive demands of its opposites and make them become the will of the ego mildly within the proper scope.

Self identity is an individual's self integration in a specific environment, and an individual's ability to seek internal consistency and continuity, that is, a firm and coherent awareness of who I am, my future development direction, and how I adapt to society. If the problem of identity is solved well, the ego will balance with superego, ID and environment.

In today's open society, the desire of ID and superego can be satisfied. But the pressure brought by the social environment is increasing day by day.

The gaze from the "environment" is always there, if the problem is not solved. Then, when the pressure brought by ID, superego and environment is too great and reaches the critical point that the ego can bear, the ego will start the defense mechanism to suppress, deny, regress, offset, project, sublimate and so on. The result is the concrete manifestation of various youth problems.

Secondly, once the problem of stage is not solved effectively, the conflict of "intimacy vs. loneliness" which should be solved in the next stage, that is, the 18-30 stage of early adulthood, will be difficult to solve. This is also the psychological cause of the trend that young people do not marry or love each other.

He is making the "self" grow up again in the way of practice. Instead of being held hostage by the ID, superego and environment, he becomes a person who has lost himself.

It's just that this road is not easy to go. I hope he can go further and go more smoothly. As for those sour people, who are full of the smell of despising the world, they have no ordinary mind at all.

When he was walking on the road, he realized the life of the masses with his heart, and soon stopped at a place where the crowd gathered. The people here were listening to a speech made by a man. The speaker looked good and the speech was endless. The people at the bottom agreed with his speech, shouting support words one by one. He smiles back at these female fans, In response.

Fang Tianxing also listened to a few words, but found that what he said was really ordinary. Many of them were one-sided and paranoid ideas. He only used people's emotions by encouraging and inciting, and did not really describe the world. The women below are still cheering, as if the speaker is talking about the highest truth in the world.

Fang Tianxing tried to ask a woman around him. He asked in a low voice, "brother, what do you think of what he said?"

The man looked at Fang Tianxing and said, "I think what he said is very good. This wise man is the one who speaks for us. Every word has come to my heart. He's the only one who really thinks about our women. "

Fang Tianxing is very puzzled. The people on the stage are still talking, but Fang Tianxing has already felt dull. The speaker accurately grasped the psychology of the people below and instilled what they want. But no matter whether accepting these things will make their lives better or not, maybe he will improve their lives as long as his fans like to listen to them.

The speaker on the stage talked with great enthusiasm, perhaps because he noticed Fang Tianxing under the stage. He suddenly reached out to Fang Tianxing and asked him to come up. Fang Tianxing was slightly surprised, and the people around him were shouting, as if it was a very glorious thing to be called on the stage.

Fang Tianxing came on stage slowly. The speaker asked him to stand beside him. He said, "now, would you do us a favor?"

Fang Tianxing wanted to see what medicine he sold in the gourd. He said with a smile, "of course I'm willing to serve you."

Fang Tianxing happily accepted his arrangement. The man didn't see that Fang Tianxing wasn't the child care they were looking for. At the bottom, they found a good child care and felt puzzled. Why did they say they should cooperate on the stage, but now they don't call themselves on the stage. Is there any change in the plan.

Fang Tianxing has a clear idea and wants to see his performance. These people must have their purpose to incite the masses here.

The man laughed at each other and said, "how do you usually treat the women around you? Do you feel ashamed of them?"

This person's words implied the meaning of temptation, and clearly wanted Fang Tianxing to say what he had prepared for a long time, but Fang Tianxing was not the person they prepared at all. Naturally, he didn't know what kind of answer they wanted, so he naturally said, "it's not bad, but it's not easy to think of our mother's painstaking efforts to raise me. We must repay her well."

The man was stunned at first, and then said emphatically: "but have you done any harm to the women around you, for example, do you have a preference for boys in your family? For example, when you were a child, your parents treated you as well as your sisters and sisters, and were more partial to you. "

There are no sisters in my family, but I know that parents always love their children. Sometimes for many reasons, they don't treat all children equally. Love is the greatest strength in the world and the source of all injustice Fang Tianxing said with sadness and helplessness.

Love is always unfair, otherwise there would not be so many joys and sorrows in the world.

However, forcing others to change because of this injustice is not a force from the heart, but a force to convince others. This is not a civilized approach.

Pseudo feminism not only poisons women, but also men. Don't you see that in this cross talk, when it is said that women are better than men, the applause is thunderous, and men are clapping too; There is little applause when it comes to saying that men are better than women.

Most of the time, men and women are responsible for many things.

The most ridiculous part of pseudo feminism is that in other places, it advocates equality between men and women, "women's rights should be the same as men's! Those obligations should be left to men to do the housework, and it's better to let men do the childbirth as well. "

Xu Fan retorted: "but you also admit that your mother is very hard and has not received the due reward, but why can't they have a higher status and live a better life?"