Chapter 290

After listening to Fang Tianxing's speech, the fans at the bottom don't know whether they really understand it. Some of them seem to suddenly realize it, some of them seem to be extremely irritable, and everything they believe collapses suddenly, which makes it hard for people to accept it all at once.

It's not that how many fans of those people really believe Xu Fan's words, but that they need this kind of thought as a weapon to support their lives. Now they are told that all this is false, which makes them not know how to continue to live.

Fang Tianxing knows that the next is the most difficult place, how to let them regain a new life and find their own direction.

At the bottom, a woman with a face full of flesh stood up. She took the lead in making trouble. She said to Tianxing, "this society is very unfair. To tell you the truth, I really don't care who my child's surname is. I can also take my husband's surname. But I am very worried that if I have a baby, there will be my job and my life.

The difference between men and women, at most, is the difference in strength. For example, boys can lift a box by themselves, and we two women can carry it together.

There is not a girl standing beside, naturally think that physical work belongs to boys, girls only do some cleaning work, or simply watch on the side.

Fang Tianxing said: "so what I want to say is that women, whether they are women's rights or equal rights, must give up some things while demanding equal social status. You can't have both fish and bear's paws. I hope that female friends can understand the huge pressure of boys in the society, and male friends should also respect women's efforts. "

But most of the time, everyone is eager to help themselves and reduce their struggle in the relationship between the two sexes. Therefore, everyone looks at others with a magnifying glass and himself with a microscope.

Put forward all kinds of requirements and standards for the desired partner, and at the same time, look up to yourself. Both men and women are eager for a kind of perfect lover who takes the initiative of each other and pays more for each other.

However, no one is a fool, many people in life are in the state of zero sum game, more and more people see the truth, silly pain, and finally become "smart".

Everyone is eager for the other party to pay first, the other party takes the initiative, but does not ask why the other party must take the initiative to you?

The more information men and women have, the more utilitarian they will be. At the same time, when choosing a mate, we began to put forward a lot of soft requirements, and these requirements are invisible. In fact, they are afraid that others will think they are too utilitarian.

When time goes by, people's hearts become impetuous, and the simple saying "I like you, I am good to you, I also like you, you are good to me, I am good to you" in the past is what I miss most in my heart.

"Men are all pig hooves, they can only cheat." A woman stood up and said.

They are delicate egoists. They are cautious and sensitive to love and marriage. They want to get the benefits of love, and they are afraid of the time, energy and money invested in the early stage. They are afraid of failure, rejection and failure. So always use a defensive attitude to deal with all people.

But the other side is not a fool, in the face of this defensive posture, is not willing to devote themselves. So these two groups of people are constantly trying to find out what to do.

Such a marriage is impossible to get happiness, can only let them constantly vent their anger.

There are no women's rights in this world, only the human rights of being born. For example, women also enjoy equal rights to employment, education and equal dignity.

Now the so-called abnormal feminism is not the right way. It is a copy of all kinds of utopianism and heresy for hundreds of years.

Their routine is the same, in order to gain more privileges, incite the target cannon fodder to hate a certain group, and use the lazy characteristics of human nature to launch the masses to fight against the masses. In the end, only the general public will suffer, while only the key members of the cult will benefit.

In modern society, as an educated group, we certainly advocate equal employment environment and equal employment environment. I used to stay in a small hotel with poor sound insulation. Code in the room.

When my northeast aunt calls for two hours, I just listen to the northeast dialect for two hours. But this small hotel also has advantages, that is cheap, 90 yuan a day.

When Fang Tianxing first came in, he really felt that the price was very cheap, because it was broken, and there were many things that he should have.

However, that night, just when Fang Tianxing was very happy, the voice of the hostess answering the phone went through the corridor, turned the corner, split the door and went straight into my ear. What she said was: young man, is 90 yuan too much? That's 80 yuan a night. Where can you find 80 yuan a night?

You see, Fang Tianxing was very happy. He was not happy when he heard this. What's the matter? We're all young men. Why am I 90 night and others 80 night? Do I look more like a fool?

When Fang Tianxing was indignant, another self in his heart asked me a question. What would I think if the price given by the landlady to the young man just now was not 80, but 100?

Of course, I will feel very happy. After all, other people are losing, and I am making money. But Fang Tianxing thought again and felt that his idea was very stupid, because my happiness was completely based on the price given by the boss.

Just imagine, if the sound insulation of this small hotel was very good, I should have been completely immersed in the code words at that time, and I couldn't hear the landlady's voice at all. In other words, as long as we do not compare the "illusory gains and losses", Fang Tianxing will not be unhappy.

What's more, when Fang Tianxing stayed in this small hotel, he thought it was very cheap, so this kind of blind comparison was unnecessary. When I think about it, I feel more comfortable and continue to code happily.

How to reduce unhappiness? There are two main points. One is not to compare blindly. People do have loss aversion, but if you don't take the initiative to do some meaningless comparison, you can make yourself more comfortable; The other is don't speculate on others, don't create unnecessary unhappiness for yourself just because you don't understand others.

After that, these two points are not finished, because they both belong to "don't do anything", and we need to talk about "what to do".

What kind of reality, everyone's starting point is very different, the students who spend every day in the University, the family has already bought a house early, finished the job, the family quickly arranged the work, found a girl with a clean history, married and had a baby, show love every day, bask in children.

After more than ten years of hard study, the 985 graduate boy finally made a living in a central enterprise, but he worked as a migrant worker on the construction site and endured the life of being scolded as a slave.

The ability of an individual does not determine his fate, but depends more on his own situation and the track of different times.