Chapter 91 - 91: Should I Text Him First!? II

'Wait and see if he texts you first.

If you're feeling really uncertain, there's an easy, low-risk strategy; you can just wait for him to text first.

There are advantages and disadvantages to this option. The good; it keeps you from overwhelming him, makes you look cool, and could convince him he needs to chase you.

Now here's the bad; he might assume that you're not interested., and not text you first. If this route sounds appealing to you, anyway, and you're worried you might not hear from him again, we suggest waiting for a day or two, and then take the initiative by texting him if he hasn't reached out to you.'

Uhm… I checked my phone again. It was already 9 in the evening. No text yet. HUHU.. I think I should strike while the iron is hot! Tonight, is time for me to make a decision. I mean, if I wait for another day or two… maybe Anthony would think I'm not interested. I can't make him suffer. He already showed me that he likes me right!? If he's not interested, he won't do what he did all day!!!!! 

Next option.

'Send him something light and flirty.

Want to build a relationship with him post hook-up, but don't want to come across as desperate? This is probably your best options.

Send him a text that's light hearted with just a hint of flirty. Don't make it overly sexual, which shows him the physical isn't all you're interested in.

Of course, this could work if you're looking for more hookups, too. There isn't any reason you couldn't have conversations with someone you're hooking up with, but it does have the potential to send the wrong message.

Example: Just wanted to let you know I had an amazing time with you. I can't get your handsome face out of my mind.'

Uh... That's exactly what I'm feeling but… let me read more first. 

'Compliment him on his technique (or anything else related to the hookup)'

Ok, this one is definitely just for casual sex, not what I want. Next.

'If you felt a real connection, tell him.

Anyone telling you to be open about your feelings will probably make you roll your eyes. You've likely heard it before.

But one of the most important things in any relationship (especially romantic ones!) is communication. So if you felt sparks like crazy, believe us when we say you should tell him.

However, don't go over the top. This isn't the time to confess love to him, try to tone it down while getting your feelings across. 

Examples: I haven't been able to get you out of my head all day. I'm surprised at how much I've been missing you.

So, were those fireworks between us last night, or just my neighbors lighting up some next door again?'

Isn't these texts same as already confessing!? No, I can't do that. NEXT!

'Send him a selfie.

You know what they say, 'a picture is worth a thousand words'.

Imagine just how much a selfie can get across. The options are limitless here.

Examples: A sultry picture of your in your lingerie or a selfie of you and your pet or your smiling face.'

I imagined myself sending Anthony just that and… ok, never mind. Next.

'Casually check up on him. 

If you're not sure which approach to take but you don't want to wait for him to text first, this is the choice for you.

Send him a casual check up message, and it has the benefit of keeping you from looking clingy. 

His response will give you clues on how to go from there.'

That seems workable. Ok, there are still some more!? Gosh, I can't believe they have so many advice available. Let me see.

'Make plans for a date.

What if you really felt the chemistry, and you know he did, too?

Well, then there's no reason you shouldn't take the first step. Even if he's developing feelings for you, he won't always take the initiative because he might be nervous, too.

So if he's indicated clearly enough to you that he REALLY likes you and the feeling is mutual, GO FOR IT! Start making plans for a date with him. 

In the event he's too nervous to take the leap first, you'll be lifting a huge weight off his shoulders and really impressing him. 

Examples: 

Want to go see this new movie with me this weekend?

I've been dying to try this new restaurant. Wanna come with me?

I have two tickets to the show this weekend, and the second one has your name on it.'

OH MY GAWD. YES YES YES!!!!! I mean, he did show that he likes me many times! Why am I being so stupid!? I can do this! I can do this! I can DO THISSSSS!!!!! 

I stopped reading the article and decided that I will just text him! Now, I can just combine everything I learned and see how it goes. 

I unlocked the screen of my cellphone. I won't get rejected if I just casually text him first right? Oh well. Here goes nothing.

'Good evening, Anthony. Were you able to get home safely? Thanks for…'

FUCK. Thanks for the mind-blowing sex session we had last night. Mind going for round 2? Of course, that will be after we have our date, I mean we already had a date before in the canteen so it's not like it would be the first… so, is next weekend fine? Sure. Yes! See you.

I shook my head from my imaginary texting. I wish I can just text him those but! I don't want to be rejected! Also, what if he only goes to have sex with me? Wait, I should research on that too. Then again, I already know that relationships are possible after hook ups. I'll just have to build our relationship during this time! We already like each other anyway! 

I edited my text.

'Good evening, Anthony. Were you able to get home safely?'

Before I could change my mind, I hit send.

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TBC