Moreover, this kind of patients will always be afraid of being abandoned by others. When the intimate relationship with the person they depend on ends, they will feel extremely desperate. This also explains why Chu Yulan is so nervous and extreme in the morning, which is also due to the characteristics of dependent personality disorder.
As for the main cause of this personality disorder, it is that the dependence needs in early childhood are not met enough, which leads to the psychological fixation in adulthood in the "mouth desire period" (a completely independent state in infancy). The lack of this demand, so that a person's "psychological lactation" continues to extend, some people are even in the "lifelong psychological lactation" state.
For Chu Yulan, during the six years from her birth to her six years old, because of the informal welfare home, her dependent needs were not satisfied, but she suffered a lot of damage. This is the main reason why she got this kind of mental disease.
And when she got the care of her parents, her inner needs were released, and at the same time, the "psychological lactation" continued to extend, to the point where she is now.
Thinking of this, Chu Chen asked: "Xiaolan, who are your relatives in your mind?"
Chu Yulan immediately replied: "my parents count one, my uncle and grandparents usually treat me well, count half, by the way, and brother, you count one."
"Me?"
Chu Chen smelled speech to point to own nose, said: "I although possibility is very big, but if is not?"
Chu Yulan quickly said: "brother, you must be. In the morning, you admit that you have the jade medal. Plus the other two points, there is no such coincidence in the world."
Chu Chen helplessly shakes his head, knowing that the possibility is really small. Now that things are like this, he doesn't think much about it. However, from Chu Yulan's answers, he also knows why Chu Yulan is so afraid of himself, which is a typical feature of this personality disorder. He cares too much about the thoughts of the people he depends on.
After getting the answer, Chu Chen is also worried about how to deal with the relationship with Chu Yulan. People with this kind of character are very vulnerable to criticism and hurt. Needless to say, he won't criticize her now. The key is that she is submissive now, which really makes him uncomfortable.
And Chu Chen thought that he might have to face her all the time in the future, which really gave him a headache.
"Xiao Lan, can I discuss something with you?"
Hearing this, Chu Yulan quickly said, "hmm? What's the matter, brother? Just say it. "
Chuchen tried to be kind and said, "Xiaolan, can you stop treating me like this?"
"What? Brother, do you hate me again? " Chu Yulan opened his eyes wide and said with some panic.
Seeing this, Chu Chen quickly said: "Xiaolan, you misunderstood me. I mean, don't be so afraid of me as you are now. Are you at home and treating your relatives the same way?"
Hearing this, Chu Yulan breathed a sigh of relief at the same time, some weak said: "at home, I and my parents together, very happy, very comfortable, but they will not scold me."
Hearing this, Chu Chen finally knew where the crux was and said, "Xiaolan, I'm in a bad mood in the morning. I'll say sorry to you. I promise you that I won't scold you as long as you don't make a big mistake in the future."
"Brother, you don't have to apologize. I'm not good in the morning. I made you angry."
Chu Yulan waved her hand and then asked, "brother, what's the big mistake you're referring to?"
"It's very simple. Just don't do anything immoral." Chu Chen said.
Chu Yulan quickly nodded her head and said happily, "it's no problem. I won't do anything immoral. My parents have taught me that since childhood."
"Well, you can rest assured now, but I said in advance that it's better for us to get in touch with each other as before for the time being. Don't be too close. Our relationship has not been determined, and I haven't adapted to it. Do you know?"
"All right."
Chu Yulan to this request to no opinion, can get Chu Chen before guarantee, her heart has been very satisfied.
"Well, it's almost time. Let's go on..."
In the next journey, there was a section of road which was very difficult to walk because of the steep slope. Fortunately, with the help of Chu Chen, otherwise Chu Yulan would have been tired. Fortunately, the distance was only two or three hundred meters.
After a long journey, Chu Yulan said breathlessly, "brother, I find that there are rich resources of Chinese herbal medicines here. Why not develop them?"
Chu Chen asked curiously, "eh, Xiaolan, do you know Chinese herbal medicine?"
Chu Yulan nodded with a smile: "well, because of my health, I have studied traditional Chinese medicine for a period of time."
"Well, there are a lot of medicinal materials here, such as Radix Isatidis, Radix Saposhnikoviae, Radix Bupleuri, Cassia obtusifolia and so on. Not only are there many kinds of Chinese medicinal materials, but also they are of high quality and large amount. They are our unique superior resources. But you've experienced it all the way. There's no similar road. No matter how big the business opportunities are, they can't develop. ""No matter how many wild Chinese herbal medicines there are, there will be days to dig them up. Therefore, the most important thing is that they can be raised artificially. However, although this mountainous area belongs to the loess landform developed area, due to people's long-term disorderly cultivation and nomadic activities, a large number of vegetation has been destroyed, resulting in serious soil erosion, ecological imbalance and barren land
"It's not the most important thing. The most important thing is that we are short of water resources here. How can we develop it?" In the end, Chu Chen couldn't help feeling dejected for the future of those villagers. Could these people only go out to work in the future and finally move to other places?
"Brother, I know there is a kind of Chinese herbal medicine, which is suitable for the geographical environment of this mountainous area."
"Really? Which is it? " Chuchen said in surprise.
"Forsythia suspensa."
"Forsythia? Is that the forsythia we often use Chuchen some doubts said.
Forsythia suspensa, also known as huanghuatiao, Lianke, Qingqiao, Luoqiao, huangqidan, etc., is a kind of heat clearing and detoxification traditional Chinese medicine. It is mainly used for the treatment of fever, wind heat, cold, fever, upset, sore throat, acute nephritis, etc., which is very common in daily life.
"Yes, that's it. I've seen in books before that Forsythia suspensa is cold and drought resistant. It's afraid of water stains. It has strong sprouting power and has no strict requirements on soil. It can grow in brown soil, cinnamon soil and fluvo aquic soil, among which brown soil and cinnamon soil are the best. Forsythia has strong vitality and adaptability. It can grow in acidic and alkaline soil, but it is not tolerant to salt and alkali, and has a wide range of adaptability
"Moreover, it can grow on dry sunny slopes or crevices with soil, and even on the weathered parent material of bedrock or purple sand shale."
"Forsythia suspense has strong cold resistance, and can safely survive the winter in alpine areas, and blossom and bear fruit. Forsythia suspensa has strong sprouting power, fast hair clump, and can quickly expand its distribution area. Forsythia suspensa is resistant to pruning, and has developed root system. The main root is not obvious, and the lateral root is thick and long, with many fibrous roots. It can be widely extended around the main root, and has strong absorption and soil fixation capacity. "
"This kind of living habit of Forsythia is just suitable for the soil and climate environment here, and it has strong vitality. It doesn't have to worry about competing with farmland and mountains, and it can also protect the environment. It can be said that it can kill many birds with one stone."
After hearing Chu Yulan's introduction, Chu Chen said with a smile:
"Xiaolan, I didn't expect you to have such a good memory, but although I saw Forsythia in the mountains when I was a child, it's still unknown whether it can be planted in a large scale here. Besides, whether the medicinal materials can be sold at a good price depends on its quality. The land here is poor, and even the price is low I don't know if it can be planted well
"To solve these two problems, the key still depends on the cultivation technology. We can only go back to Beijing to solve this problem. Of course, I would like to thank Xiao Lan for your reminding first."
Chu Yulan heard the praise, very happy said: "brother, you don't need to thank, in fact, I can write down these, also because the teacher who taught me at the beginning of the relationship, he just studies this, after going back, I will help you to contact him, maybe he has a way to cultivate Forsythia!"
"Well, whether you can do it or not, I'll give you a present after a while." Chuchen said with a smile.
"Really
Hearing this, Chu Yulan couldn't help jumping up excitedly: "brother, what are you going to give me?"
"Don't worry, you'll know by then..."
After that, they walked for about an hour and finally arrived at their destination, Lvjia village.
Lvjia village is surrounded by mountains, surrounded by terraces developed by villagers from generation to generation. At a glance, those terraces are thick and rugged, simple and powerful, and quite spectacular.
But after all, the land is limited, so every family in the village does not have much arable land. Even for those who have little and poor land, even if they grow well in a year, besides food and clothing, their annual harvest is limited.
From a distance, the whole Lvjia village, dozens of families, most of the houses, are earth embryo houses, looks a bit dilapidated, only a few are brick houses. However, it was supposed to be dinner time, but Chu Chen didn't see the smoke curling over the village, which made him feel strange.
Chuchen, before they got to the entrance of the village, saw LV Erniu running towards them in a panic.
"Er Niu, what's the matter?" Chu Chen saw the tearful appearance of Er Niu and asked eagerly.
Lu Erniu said in tears: "Chu Uncle Chu, here you are. My mother just wanted to commit suicide! "
"What
Hearing this, Chu Chen was so surprised that he said, "didn't I ask you to bring a message before? I'll pay for the treatment. Why can't your mother open it?"
Lu Er Niu choked and said: "I My mother thought I was lying to her. She said she didn't want to drag us down. She was ready to drink pesticide just now. Fortunately, my father found it quickly. Wuwu... "