CH 55

The next day is the weekend. Gu Yingjie couldn’t sit still. He wanted to try his luck, so he brought flowers and gifts to Qin’s house.

It was still Mrs. Qin, who received him with a smile. She said Qin Wenyi had gone to play golf early in the morning, and Qin Yufei didn’t seem to be up yet. Gu Yingjie looked at his watch and was a little embarrassed. It was almost ten o’clock. His family’s fierce woman is fond of staying in bed. He seemed to come a little early.

The good thing is that Mrs. Qin is very polite. Asked Gu Yingjie if he had eaten breakfast, greeted him with some tea and snacks, and then said she went up to call Qin Yufei.

Gu Yingjie sighed with relief and was very grateful. If Mrs. Qin went to call, Qin Yufei should be embarrassed and come down, right?

It turned out that Qin Yufei was not embarrassed, and Mrs. Qin brought words that said, “She said she didn’t want to see you yet.”

Gu Yingjie’s heart sank, but maybe a week was enough time for him to get used to such a situation, and it didn’t feel as bad as the last time he came to her house to look for her. So he could barely smile out and said courteously, “Then, thanks Auntie, I’ll come back next time.”

Gu Yingjie left the gift behind and went away.

Mrs. Qin watched him leave and went upstairs. She knocked on her daughter’s room door. “He’s gone.”

Qin Yufei opened the door, dressed in pajamas and lifeless. “Oh.”

Mrs. Qin walked into the room, sat shoulder-to-shoulder with her daughter on the sofa, and asked her, “Mom never asked you, what’s actually going on?”

“Gu Yingjie didn’t tell you?”

“He just said it was his fault.” Mrs. Qin looked at her daughter. “What did he do? Cheated on you?”

“No.” Qin Yufei was depressed. Why would they all ask him if he cheated?

“Have an ambiguous love affair with another woman for excitement?”

Qin Yufei was more depressed. The question was the same as Yin Ting’s. “It’s not ambiguous. But his ex-girlfriend is always looking for him and wants to get back together with him.”

“And what is his attitude?” Mrs. Qin asked calmly.

“I caught once before. He said he refused and also told her he had a girlfriend. Later that ex-girlfriend said she was bullied by her boyfriend, always looking for Gu Yingjie’s help. Gu Yingjie chatted with her for a long time on the phone. I could not get through on the phone. Last Saturday I met his mother at the mall, the first meeting with parents, I was also very nervous, I have to cook, want to show off a little, especially need him to support me, but not only he came back late for this ex-girlfriend thing, he also hides in the bedroom to talk on the phone. I had a horrible day.” Qin Yufei said and got sad again, “I was humiliated in front of his mother.”

“So you think he neglected you for his ex-girlfriend’s sake, don’t you?”

Qin Yufei nodded, “Mom, that’s how his personality is. I feel a little regretful, I shouldn’t have accepted him. I knew before I fell in love with him, he was this person, too passionate. He was polite, gentlemanly and nice to girls. In other people’s eyes he was Mr. Nice and had a lot relationships. Actually, I know we are not suitable.”

“Knowing that you aren’t suitable, why ended up being together?”

Qin Yufei was silent for a while, “That is, I like him very much.”

Mrs. Qin smiled and stroked her daughter’s head. “What about now? Dislike him anymore?”

“But he’s tangled up with women, and I can’t stand it.”

“What’s his attitude?”

“He just admitted his mistake. Said he wouldn’t do it again. But I can’t believe it.”

“Hmm.” The mother nodded as a response.

Qin Yufei hugged her mother’s arm, head resting on her shoulder: “Mom, I thought about it. He is this kind of personality. Even if there is no Abby this time, there will be others in the future. When girls show affection to him and ask him for help, he is easy to soften. He is very good to me, but he is not bad to others. I’m not saying I want him to become a rude, mean-faced person, but I feel uneasy when he’s nice to anyone, and I get angry. Then we would fight. I hesitated for a long time before getting into a relationship with him, because I was concerned about this. He is this kind of character, and I am that kind of temper. Mom, I’m very temperamental, especially small-minded. I didn’t tell you before that my boyfriend in America, the one I kept saying I would bring back to you, he, well, he cheated on me. I was so sad. I didn’t dare tell you. I loved him so much at that time.”

Mrs. Qin hugged her daughter tightly. When her daughter said that she broke up, she guessed it. She could feel that her daughter really loved that boy. Every time she called home, she was talking about that boy. She said she would bring him back when she returned home; she said his family was average and asked her to help talk to her father, and not to dislike him. She said that the boy is very hardworking and if they gave him a chance, he will do well in his job. She hoped dad would give the boy a chance.

The mother heard her daughter say this repeatedly, naturally she understood how deep the affection was. Qin Yufei was already planning the future. When she finished studying, she would take the boy back to the country, arrange a job for him and pave his future. Her future with him.

Then suddenly one day, she said they broke up, their feelings did not match. Mrs. Qin said nothing, didn’t pursue the question, but actually understood in her heart. She thought her daughter would never mention this matter in the future, but unexpectedly she said it today.

“He, he slept with Vi. They have been together for some time, but they have kept me in the dark.” Qin Yufei simply said it all.

Mrs. Qin stroked her daughter’s head: “So you think Gu Yingjie will be like that? He would cheat on you?”

Qin Yufei shook her head and thought about it and said, “I, I’m not sure.”

Mrs. Qin asked her, “Is he gentle with girls, or ambiguous? Can you distinguish this? Tenderness and ambiguity are two different things, and joking and making love are also two different things.”

Qin Yufei frowned and thought for a while: “I can’t tell.” She was so angry that she couldn’t possibly make a judgment.

Mrs. Qin said, “Then how can you ask a man with normal social skills not to get in touch with girls, and how can you stop other girls from being attracted to him and showing him affection?”

Qin Yufei froze and raised her eyes to look at her mother.

Mrs. Qin smiled at her. “You can’t even control yourself, can you?”

“Mom!” Qin Yufei was unhappy. Was she her own mother? Why are you helping someone else?

Mrs. Qin, regardless of her protests, continued: “Today, even if it is not Gu Yingjie, it will be another man. Your boyfriend, the qualifications must be good, must be attractive, mom believes in your vision, you will not like a person who is ugly and unqualified. You think about it, the qualifications are good, attractive. How could no woman like him? A normal man is unlikely to see a woman smiling at himself and dismissed her. A girl confesses her love, and he scolds her. Then he must have a personality defect, psychological problems.”

Qin Yufei pouted. “Don’t make him so dramatic.”

“So a polite rejection is reasonable, even if you, there’s a boy, politely confess to you, you dislike him, but the other party did nothing wrong, he is not bad, you can not unreasonably reprimand him, right? This is educated, you can also say it gentle. But if there is no obvious rejection, but non-committal, hanging on the other party’s appetite, this is called ambiguous. Or, although he refused, but flirting with eyes and body language, and full of hints, this is also ambiguous. Jokes and sex are also the same. Hearing a joke is funny. Normal people will laugh, but the normal relationship between men and women does not include the flirting and hints just mentioned. It’s actually quite a good difference, isn’t it?”

Qin Yufei said nothing. She couldn’t refute, but she was still unhappy. Then she was just petty, supersensitive to this kind of thing, and totally intolerant of even the slightest bit.

“Yufei, mom is not speaking for Gu Yingjie. If you want to break up with him, Mom will not have an opinion. Such things as feelings, like a person drinking water, could be hot or cold. But mom thinks it’s time to talk to you about your feelings and marriage. Think clearly. What is the reason you broke up with Gu Yingjie? Is this reason doesn’t exist for the next man? Although there is a saying that the next one will be better, but only ghost knows if it will be better. What you have to judge is whether this one is good enough now.”

Qin Yufei blinked her eyes and thought about Gu Yingjie. She really liked him and thought he was very nice. Only except for the fact that he was nice to everyone. She really felt that it was okay for those women who showed him love, he kicked them away hard, regardless of his upbringing and manners.

Mrs. Qin laughed when she saw Qin Yufei’s unconvinced look. “Daughter, there is no perfect person in this world. Men and women are the same. There are not only joyful things. It’s the same when you grow up. Look at your father, not to mention when he was young, even now at his age, well maintained, without a big belly, elegant, and successful career, not know how many little girls come up. You just don’t see it, but I know it. The one who calls him for advice, the one who sends him a text message when he is on a business trip saying that he can go to her hotel room to discuss business matters. He showed me his phone.”

“Why?” Qin Yufei frowned in anger, her dad so disgusting.

Mrs. Qin laughed. “He just wanted to show off how charming he is. He didn’t cheat on me, he did nothing wrong. He rejected those people.”

Qin Yufei bit her lips, and wanted to say, how do you know, you couldn’t see. But when the words came to her mouth, she thought that this was her parents; she said so, as if she was instigating their relationship. But Mrs. Qin is aware of what her daughter wants to say. She said: “This is the point I want to make for you. Yufei, women should have wisdom, and this wisdom relies not only on the brain but also on the heart. Use your brain to judge and your heart to understand. You know how much your father wanted a son. After I gave birth to you, I can not get pregnant again. Your father was very disappointed. You don’t know, but that was actually the biggest crisis in our marriage.”

Qin Yufei listened quietly.

“He is not worried about no one throwing themselves at him now, let alone at that time. He did not cheat, but at that time, there was more than one ambiguous relationship. If I didn’t handle it well that time, you and I don’t know what will happen now, and he doesn’t know what will happen. Anyway, it will not be the way it is now. I thought at that time, will he dislike me and my daughter for the rest of our lives, even if he has been peaceful these two years, but in the future, there is no guarantee that he will not find another woman to have a son.” Mrs. Qin smiled, “Now over twenty years have passed, and it turns out that he did not. He’s been good to you too, hasn’t he?”

“How did you do it?”

Mrs. Qin stroked her daughter’s head: “The method and countermeasures are, of course, are different when dealing with different people. Your father he is a powerful man. I was playing generous and pitiful, as if it was my fault for not giving birth to a son, but I was also quietly show him the knowledge that the birth of a boy or girl is the male side’s cause. And then I pretend to planning the days to live without him, how I live with my daughter, can not drag him down, he is a successful entrepreneur, how can he not have a son? Of course, I also explicitly and implicitly let him imagine how miserable the abandoned wife and daughter, not only living in hardship but also ridiculed by everyone around. He was so stimulated that he hated the heartless man who abandoned his wife and children.”

Qin Yufei thought about it for a while. And yes, a few years ago, a woman ran to the company to scold her husband for having a mistress and abandoning his family, and her father fired that person in a fit of rage.

It was all thanks to her mother’s tutelage back then?

Mrs. Qin continued: “Not only to make him care for you, you also have to let him know how miserable he is after being carried away by the outside female wolves. These things are not clear in a few words, but women sometimes really should not be afraid to put a softer stance, softer does not mean you beg him, but understand his shortcomings and problems, and let him know the bottom line. My bottom line is simple. I can’t accept any form of cheating. Your dad knows that. We almost split up. He was scared, and after that we were fine until now. Sure, there are fights, cold wars, friction. But you say, why I am confident that he did not dare to cheat? This confidence is thirty years of my experience. Running a family is not as easy as running a company. Judgment, patience, timing, countermeasures, concessions, rewards, punishments. It takes these to run well.”

Qin Yufei frowned: “But what is the point of this, this is so tiring, this way of life, too boring.”

Mrs. Qin laughed: “How can you be tired? Everyone lives like this every day, even though you think it is a big deal. You too. You say, which day you do not need to judge things? which day you do not need to be patient? You drive down the road, you get stuck in traffic, you tolerate it. Your customer is difficult, you tolerate. You want to response, even if you do not want to cooperate anymore, think how to refuse, right? Even when you eat, you can’t put food in your mouth immediately when you’re hungry, so you have to endure it. No fried fish sticks, but eat fried chicken wings instead. Is not also a compromise? Do you feel too tired and can not continue to live? Aren’t these things done in the blink of an eye? The real thing that will make you feel tired and unbearable are the things you won’t be able to bear at all.”

Qin Yufei was dumbfounded. Suddenly it occurred to her she had actually been putting up with Gu Yingjie’s annoyance and had been holding back from breaking up with him. So it’s not that she couldn’t stand it. She even looked forward to his daily text message to see what he would say.

What you really can’t tolerate, you won’t tolerate at all.

“There is also a very important point, very important point.” Mrs. Qin said, “If all your judgments and countermeasures can be effective, it must be because you and him have a deep feeling. Otherwise, everything is useless. He is willing to accommodate you only because he loves you.”

Qin Yufei pursed her lips. She felt that Gu Yingjie loved her. So, can she discipline him? And kick those annoying women away?

“As much as you do for him, he will do for you.” Mrs. Qin lovingly wrapped her arms around her daughter. “You have to judge first if he is worthy of you doing a lot for him. Women who give selflessly are fools, and women who only want to ask are stupid.”

So she has to change first? “What if I just can’t stand the slightest bit of wind?”

“Then you’ll find one that’s not windy. Look at Qiu Zhengqing, who can’t be blown by eight winds, probably the kind who rejects women without mercy and thinks the other party is ignorant. I guess.” Mrs. Qin’s tone is mischievous. “Is this your ideal type?”

Qin Yufei pouted. Mom, you’re too old to pretend to be cute.

Mrs. Qin laughed: “Actually, whatever is good, you will think about it yourself. Even if it’s a breakup, you’re not afraid of it. You must have felt very sad when you broke up, but now you’re in love again, and found someone you like. So it’s okay to break up. I also thought at first, I’m not afraid of losing my marriage. I’m so beautiful. My daughter is so cute. I may find a better man after this one is gone.”

“But you just said you don’t know what the next one will be, and the current one is more important.”

“Yeah, that’s right.” Mrs. Qin said, “Now the current one is more important. You must pay attention to it. Do not just throw people away as garbage. However, it is not the end of the world if you really lose it, you still have to live your life, there are still good men. Woman, can bear the pain and loss to enjoy the happiness and joy. These emotional experiences are related to each other. The woman who has suffered will know when she tastes sweet.”

Qin Yufei gritted her teeth and thought seriously. Mrs. Qin bumped her with her shoulder. “You are my daughter. I do not believe there are men who are more difficult to handle than your father. Gu Yingjie seems to be gentle, he should be easy to teach. Your father was a naughty boy back then.”

“So, if he promises to change this time, I’ll forgive him?”

“That’s not good.”

“Why not again?”

“Don’t worry about him. Mind your own business first. Only forgive when you’re ready to forgive, otherwise you’re only building up hatred.”

Qin Yufei asked, “And what if I’m not ready?”

“Then break up.”

“……” Qin Yufei’s heart sank, and she was suddenly sad.

“If you are not ready, why trap yourself and trap the other side? It’s better to find another one.”

Qin Yufei’s eyes were red. She can’t imagine life without Gu Yingjie.

“Will you be afraid?”

Qin Yufei nodded her head.

“What about him? Will he be afraid?”

Shouldn’t he? He was so anxious and kept begging her for forgiveness. So Qin Yufei nodded again.

“After a long time, you will not be afraid.” Mrs. Qin said.

Qin Yufei was hit on the head again.

“So, it’s better for you to solve it as soon as possible. A person can’t stand to be dragged on like this all the time, dragged on for a long time, and the heart will fade away. You don’t need to think about others, think about whether you are like this.”

Qin Yufei could not deny it. If it were her, she might not last a week at all.

“Go to him, tell him what you think. Don’t decide yet. Then you go on a trip, to a different place, and let yourself calm down. Is it his problem, or your problem, or is it both? Then ask your own wisdom about what to do.”

Qin Yufei was thinking and suddenly grabbed her mother. “Mom, how come you never teach me this?”

“I’ve been waiting for you to bring your boyfriend back, so mother and daughter can have a little chat. You never did. I have no place to teach my skills. I am also very depressed.”

“I want to tell Dad. A woman has schemed him for decades.”

“Then he’ll die of satisfaction. A man with a bad temper has a woman as good as me to scheme him, to make him a healthy, successful, harmonious family, and have a filial daughter. He has to go to the ancestral tomb to express his gratitude.”

Qin Yufei could not help but laugh and hugged her mother. “Mom, I don’t want to wait for the next one. I don’t know what the next one will be. I just want this one now.”

“If you are sure he is worth your effort, then go for it.”

Gu Yingjie did not know that the Qin’s mother and daughter had a conversation like this. He drove to the mall and wandered around aimlessly, because he didn’t want to keep himself idle and because he wanted to find gifts that would make Qin Yufei happy. Later he tired of shopping and rested on a bench when a man sat down next to him and exclaimed on the phone, “It’s actually very simple for a man to fix a woman, pretend to be injured will do.”

Gu Yingjie listened with disbelief. Pretend to be injured? Qin Yufei will shoot him to death for pretending to be sick.

Do not know what the person on the other end of the phone said, the man talking on the phone continued: “It is not like you really die. The things like death are unpredictable, so let her be afraid that you might have an accident. It’s not like no one has ever bought a gift and been struck dead.”

Gu Yingjie’s heart fluttered. He suddenly thought of Qin Yufei’s sadness. The reason she wanted to go to America to see the star lights.

The man beside him walked away, and Gu Yingjie looked at his back and felt something strange somewhere, but he was happy. He felt he had found a way.