Life in the village is more trivial than living in the market. People in the same village often visit each other, and if a trivial matter happens to someone's family, the whole village knows it after a big mouth.
Ji Qiu went out to the grocery store to buy some oil, salt, soy sauce and vinegar, and he hardly ever went out. He and Lan Yi hid from the villagers and others, Mao Dong, and the two of them occasionally walked around the mountain to pick up some fallen hickory nuts.
The hickory nuts have thick skins and have to be smashed with a big stone. After smashing, there is a little bit of meat inside, enough to last half a day.
In winter, the mountain is completely white, and those who have no skills dare not enter the mountain, and they are easy to lose their way.
There is a river in front of Lijia Village. After Lan Yi became pregnant, Ji Qiu occasionally went fishing in the ice in order to strengthen her body.
"Haitang, there is a relative in the village named Jin Zhu, have you met?"
The room was not warm enough, and the ground was covered with cold air, so the three of them sat on the kang instead, set up a kang table, placed tea and melon seeds, and chatted together.
Gold beads? Of course I do, I heard that the dog skin plaster was overjoyed by the father and mother marrying a sick young master, before entering the door, the man died, and the family is also powerful, they insisted on grabbing the golden beads to marry in the dark.
What happened later, Li Haitang didn't know, she and her husband went to the city and stopped paying attention to the messy things in Lijia Village.
"Yes, that's her."
A few days ago, Jin Zhu's husband's family went to the village to make a fuss. They heard that Jin Zhu had eloped with a boy in the family's stable and took away a lot of belongings. It was said that before leaving, Jin Zhu was pregnant with an evil seed.
Lijia Village is under the jurisdiction of a small county under Border Town, and her husband's family has a connection with the county magistrate, so he brought the official messengers and brought Jin Zhu's uncle and aunt to the yamen for interrogation.
For this, Li Haitang could only sigh. Jin Zhu was not an honest person at first glance, so it was not surprising that she did such a thing. In the final analysis, the status quo was too unfair to women.
The reason is that Jin Zhu fell into the river and was rescued by the villagers. He was wearing a heavy jacket in winter, even if he was wet, the clothes wrapped his body, what could be seen? The important parts were not exposed.
The older girls and the younger daughter-in-laws in the village also wear tight dresses to show off the bumps of their bodies. How can this not be considered a loss of reputation?
"It's not because she was touched by a strange man."
Zhang Ruyi also started to worry, no wonder everyone wants to have a son, not just to inherit the incense, it is even more difficult for women to raise, and a little carelessness will give birth to the truth.
She is a negative example, her reputation in the capital is not good enough, she doesn't know how to be polite, and it is difficult to talk about her relatives. The high family doesn't want to find a daughter-in-law like her, because she is afraid of shame and can't support the appearance.
"At the beginning when my father was transferred to Lucheng as the magistrate, I insisted on clamoring to follow. The old ancestor almost agreed without thinking, and allowed me to take away my mother's dowry."
Before leaving, the cousins practiced for her, all with expressions of jokes in their eyes, saying that she was exiled to the Northland, and she could only find a reckless man to marry in the future.
The reckless man couldn't find it, but Lu Er is a handsome scholar with a strong character.
"I'm also terrified of having a daughter, and I don't know how to teach it."
With her chin in her blue clothes, she was instilled in her childhood with the idea of taking her husband as the sky, three obediences and four virtues. In case she doesn't know people clearly in the future, she finds a **** who has a soft temper and can only bear with her. Her natal family doesn't know anything about it.
If it teaches self-improvement and self-reliance, it is too perverse, and this kind of reputation will spread, and men from ten miles and eight villages will be discouraged, and finally leave their daughters as old maids.
If the dowry money is not given, the in-law's family looks down on it. If they give too much money, they are worried that the in-law's family will deceive their daughter just for the money.
This degree is too difficult to grasp.
After raising a daughter for more than ten years, she finally gave it away to go to her in-laws’ home, to be filial to her parents-in-law, to take care of her husband and children, and to have a lot of trouble-seeking sisters-in-law. Thinking about it, these days are very difficult.
"What's so great about it? I'm not afraid of having a daughter. I've practiced martial arts since I was a child. If you can't say it, you can do it. If you can do it, try not to force it."
If everything is opened by force, life will become much easier. It doesn't matter if you are not good at eloquence. You can beat them all, but you may get a tough reputation.
"Lan Yi, what do you think, is a comfortable life more important than a good reputation?"
Zhang Ruyi used herself as an example. She had a bad reputation, and the husband she married was not high-ranking, but her mother-in-law loved her like her own daughter, not because she was the prefect's daughter, but just because she liked her.
She and Lu Yuanqing were stumbling, and there were constant small frictions in the day. These were all condiments, at least there were no concubines and aunts in the middle, and no one who was an eyesore.
She doesn't have to worry about food and clothing, she is very satisfied.
Women are a bit vain, hoping that their husband will be in a high position and only love themselves. However, you can't have both, how can there be such a beautiful thing?
"Of course it's important to live a good life. If you always listen to what others say, then you don't have to live."
After all, that mouth didn't grow on him, and outsiders' opinions didn't matter.
Lan Yi suddenly realized, and decided to follow his own way. People respect me one foot, and I respect him one foot. On the contrary, I treat others in the same way as others.
Blindly tolerant and considerate, can only be exchanged for other people's arrogance, and finally turned into a matter of course.
Li Haitang kowtowed the melon seeds and nodded frequently. She didn't expect the illiterate Miss Zhang to have such a cognition, and she spoke clearly and logically. However, she still couldn't help but said, "First of all, you have to have a daughter."
"Haitang, why don't you always hit the nail on the head like this!"
Zhang Ruyi suddenly looked like a deflated ball, lying on the table, her cheeks puffed up. Among the sisters, Liusu didn't have a man, and the other two were pregnant. She rubbed her stomach, and the more anxious she became, the less she had.
The mother-in-law also told her not to worry, and there is no rush for this matter.
"Ruyi, you still have a problem with cold palace, I will give you a prescription later, you drink it for three months in a row."
Li Haitang felt his pulse, then murmured.
It's not a big problem, it would be better if it can be recuperated, otherwise I will feel abdominal pain every time I have a small day in the future, and it will be very uncomfortable.
"Haitang, if your Doubao is a soft little daughter, how would you raise her?"
This is the problem in front of them. They are different from those women who are hardworking and hard-working. Birds of a feather flock together and people are divided into groups. That's why they can make do together.
"I'd better teach her medical skills."
Li Haitang's eyes darkened, and she touched her chin. After she learned that she was pregnant, she had thought about this question.
"Medical skills? What does this have to do with upbringing? Aren't you looking for an upbringing nanny?"
Zhang Ruyi shuddered, thinking of the foster mothers in the capital mansion who would slap her hand every now and then, and her hands were ruthless and merciless, an old woman who was a servant dared to slap the ladies. She had been practiced, she practiced one movement all day long, but she was fined to kneel down in the end, and no one in the house said a word for her.