Shu Wanniang frowned slightly and asked, "Xiuhong said that you gave Haoran a leather coat as a winter solstice gift, is she wrong?"
"She's right," Mu Yangling nodded and said, "I gave Qi Haoran a leather jacket as a gift, but what does this have to do with our marriage?"
Shu Wanniang opened her mouth wide, wondering why her daughter didn't understand this matter, was it because she hadn't hinted it before?
But where does this kind of thing need a mother's statement? Don't you know when a few little girls get together?
Oh, yes, her daughter has no best friends. Except for Xiuhong and Xiulan, no other girl has a good time with her. Obviously, Xiuhong has never discussed this with her daughter, but who knows, her daughter will not know. What about this custom?
Obviously everyone knows it?
Niang Shu Wan said with a headache: "Silly boy, when did you give him a gift? You have to give him a winter solstice gift. Young men and women give each other winter solstice gifts to promise a marriage."
They only have free time in the north of the year when it is winter. The rich people are fine. It takes three or four years to get married. They start talking at the age of 12, and they decide to get married before the age of 15. It is possible to get married, but most families can complete it within one or two months from the time of marriage to marriage.
Many marriages are held in winter, so that the new daughter-in-law can rest for half the winter after entering the house, and can go to work in the field after the spring.
As for the mother's family, there is one less pair of bowls and chopsticks, and an extra dowry gift. It is better to marry a daughter to celebrate the New Year. Therefore, the winter solstice provides opportunities for unmarried men and women to meet. At first, it was only popular in the countryside, and later small households in the city also began to Join in, and in the end, some squire families also join in the fun, of course, they will not be as explicit as ordinary people.
Instead, I invite a few familiar families to hold a "cold-relief party" together. The wife will play with the young ladies. Those who have unmarried daughters will be seen by the wives. If the other party is also satisfied with the marriage, the woman's mother will accept it on their behalf, and send a "cold-relief map" in a few days. If the painting is not good and wait for the words to pass, everyone will naturally tacitly understand.
Although the process of expression is different, the way is similar.
When a man sees a girl, he will ask the other party to give him a winter solstice gift, anything, even if it is a piece of dry grass that the girl plucks at the roadside, that is a promise.
If the girl does not agree, she will find an excuse to push it away, and both parties will know their own feelings.
Although Qi Haoran has only been in Xingzhou for three years, he obviously knows about this custom, so this kid directly asked Mu Yangling for winter solstice gifts.
This girl, Mu Yangling, didn't even know about this well-known custom, so she sent things out in a daze, and even gave her a leather jacket by herself. That kid Qi Haoran can't tell how to laugh now.
Shu Wanniang asked cautiously: "A-Ling, Haoran is actually a good kid. I have no objection to looking at General Qi.
Mu Yangling's face was flushed, "Mother, how can this kind of thing be wrong?"
"Then tell me, besides Haoran, who do you want to marry?" Shu Wanniang looked at her daughter earnestly and said, "It's not difficult to get rid of this marriage, anyway, the two of you didn't decide through the adults. The old face is to help you get the things back, but you must think clearly, once the mother asks for the things back, it will be impossible for you and Haoran in the future."
Seeing her daughter's lowered eyes, Shu Wanniang sighed: "It's not that my mother just stared at him, but among so many people you know, only Haoran and Zijin are the most suitable. I don't like it, you are strong, and after you get married, are you willing to stay in the back house to take care of your in-laws? Except Haoran, who can bear your ambitions?"
"Even Zijin, who is always smiling, won't allow it, so child, mother really thinks Haoran is good."
But you can't lie to others.
Mu Yangling felt that this would be Qi Haoran's greatest injustice.
"Mother, this is unfair to Qi Haoran."
Shu Wanniang doesn't understand why this is unfair to Qi Haoran.
"He likes me, but I still don't like him as a man. It's unfair to him emotionally."
Shu Wanniang laughed and said: "Silly child, love can be cultivated. If you don't try it, how can you know that you won't like him?"
Shu Wanniang patted her daughter's hand lovingly and said: "Women, it is certainly the happiest to marry someone who loves themselves and also loves them, otherwise, it would be a good choice to marry someone who loves themselves, the reason why my mother agrees This marriage is because Haoran is a big-hearted child. Don't look at his usual carelessness. In fact, he knows it in his heart. He can tolerate you to do what you like. This is the greatest happiness. If you are someone else, you think you marry After the person, is your husband still willing to do what you want to do with such an idea?"
Mu Yangling was silent.
Shu Wanniang's eyes were a little gentle, and she looked out the window with empty eyes, and said softly, "Child, let's try it out, maybe you will find this marriage suitable?"
"When it comes to estrangement and inconceivability, your father and I are the most impossible. Before I was fifteen, who would have thought that I would marry your father? I am Miss Qianjin, and he is just a hunter in the mountains. I used to think that I would marry your father. People who don't take a second look. When I was rescued by your father, I thought it would be better to just die. But your father took care of me for a year. He was upright, kind, and gentle. He took care of me so well, even if In the eyes of outsiders, he is a rude person, and I am also happy. I am very grateful that I gave myself time at that time. Over the years, I feel that no one in this world is happier than me."
"It was because I married your father that I had you, Bowen, Bosi and Kejia. No matter how hard the life was in the future, my mother felt that there was sweetness in it, so child, you should try it too. Try it, try to accept Haoran, give him a chance, and give yourself a chance."
Mu Yangling asked gossip: "Mom, Dad doesn't come back a few times a year, so don't you regret it now? Are you angry?"
Shu Wanniang shook her head, "I just feel sorry for your father, except for the days when he goes home, how can he feel relieved? Three hundred and sixty-five days a year, three hundred days are spent in fear and fear, and my mother hates herself for being useless. , I can't share it for him."
The door was suddenly pushed open, which startled the two of them in the room. Shu Wanniang raised her head and faced her husband with shining eyes. She was ecstatic and then flushed with shame.
Mu Shi looked at his wife with bright eyes, saw that her neck was burning red, and a smile flashed in his eyes, so he forced himself to look away and focus on his daughter.
Mu Yangling had already stood up and was about to sneak out. Seeing his father looking over, he hurriedly said, "Father, mother is ill, talk to your mother first, and I'll cook water for you."