Chapter 186

Many students are defeated in the contest of emotion and reason, thus falling into the vortex of emotion and unable to extricate themselves. What kind of students are more likely to fall in love. It doesn't have much to do with the child's personality, either extroverted or introverted.

Through observation, Fang Tianxing found that children who lack motivation, inner world and family emotion are more likely to find spiritual sustenance and emotional supply in love.

These children themselves don't necessarily think it's right to fall in love at school, and they also know that schools and parents are against it. But they are still like moths to the fire, unable to control their emotions. Their love is doomed not to appear in the sun, so their hearts are full of panic and conflict pain.

Growing up is painful. Every change and change is accompanied by a huge chaos, just like the chaotic times before the change of every dynasty. Therefore, when the psychological changes and growth, there must be an inner struggle.

And depression is sometimes a kind of deep cry in people's heart, which tells you in a way of forbearance but not humble. Let you know how you feel. If you can pay attention to it and understand the meaning behind it, you will have a chance to get a new growth.

Only you can be really good to yourself, because you know what you really want. If you are lucky to be hit by love, then take it as a good medicine, two people fighting together to move forward, than a person buried in hardship to be much happier.

If you pay attention to it and understand the meaning behind it, you will have a chance to grow up. Silence, sometimes not silence.

Jiang GUI is old and spicy. Today, the meaning of love will only be more profound.

"What if they take a detour, it will affect their life." The teacher said worried.

"We always like to think about others, thinking that we can see the track of life, and think about the good, because we love children and don't want to see their bad appearance. But most of the ways of communicating with children have not changed since childhood, such as command, reprimand and so on

At the worst, you think you have the right to scold them, so you do it. Give yourself a reason why I'm doing it for you. They want them to be what you think they are. Instead of respecting them, supporting them and teaching them how to live the life they want.

Parents' control over their children's puppy love actually comes from their parents' desire for control and over dependence. I don't know why, the previous generation all think their children are their own private goods. No privacy, no autonomy.

Parents like to read their children's diaries and look through their children's letters to see if there is anything he thinks is bad.

For example, comics, or games, or anything that looks childish from an adult's point of view, especially something that doesn't help you in your study and is not good for your future.

Parents are used to violating their children's privacy and criticizing their children for not doing well. Moreover, parents do everything for their children, and they are complacent that they are very capable.

They are used to their children living under their own wings and feel that they are especially strong and needed. I don't care if the child grows up and suffocates in the so-called wings.

So as long as the children have their own ideas, the first reaction of parents will be anger. Puppy love means that children have their own ideas, and children are out of their control.

They are going to lose control of their children, so when parents talk about their children, a common saying is, are your wings hard.

The child always wants to grow up, wings hard not good. However, the children's autonomy makes the parents feel powerless and fail.

The so-called detour is not a straight road. The arrangement of life is very wonderful. Sometimes, because of a turning point, an unexpected choice, and not knowing a word, people who can only work hard and have extremely limited resources can make progress overnight.

Some people look up to the stars even when they are in the dark. This sentence has always encouraged me. There must be gaps and discrimination. But should I blame myself for my mistakes all my life.

Fang Tianxing began to feel that as long as you have been working hard, it is really the kind of ceaseless struggle and efforts, the world will always have a chance to surprise you.

Dreams and opportunities, many of these things, do have the element of luck, although when I just realized a small step, it is very difficult for me to get out of the pain of overexerting bruises and gouging out rotten meat. The most terrible thing for children is that they lose their spirituality and can't feel the tension of life.

For anyone, detours and temporary frustration are very normal. The key is whether you choose to return to your comfort zone and give up your dream and life.

Is it good to take a detour? Of course, it's not good. Don't go if you don't go. Once you go wrong, it's too difficult to pull back a game. But most of the time, detours are not what we want to take. In the case of limited resources and conditions, we have to step on the wrong road without panic.

There's no other way but to survive. Just don't break the pot. If you want to rush out of this tunnel, you should have a clear goal and try to do it. And in the process of your serious, a lot of positive feedback will accumulate, with the increase of positive feedback mechanism in your life.

Believe me, your mood and the surrounding environment will have a much better attitude towards you. If there is no fixed action, then please put down your restless surging, what should you do? Your heart is higher than the sky and you don't want to pay. It's also a waste of time to hurt others and yourself.

Failure is naturally bad, it will bring losses, sometimes people can't afford it, the so-called one mistake into eternal regret, the so-called regret.

Many strong people refuse to fail. They say that they should make success a habit, or victory a habit, which is reasonable. However, there are also differences.

The difference lies in who is the leader and who is the master between yourself and right, success and victory.

In other words, do you want to succeed and win, or do you have to succeed and win. Don't underestimate the difference. If you want to succeed, you are the master. You can succeed or not.

You must succeed. Success is the master. You are only the executor. If you fail, you are unqualified.

For them, success and victory are just a dimension of life. They enjoy it, so they strive to pursue it.

But this is not the only important thing in their life. Besides success, they still enjoy life, friendship, love, leisure, fun and so on. Many times, they make great efforts, but they don't lose themselves.

For many pseudo strong people, they are executors rather than masters. For them, success and victory are the whole of life. Life is to fight for victory and correctness. Without victory and correctness, life is meaningless.

So, in their smooth and successful, you see they are extremely powerful, as if invincible. But once they encounter difficulties and failures, they often start to panic.

Because the foundation for their existence and self-confidence is gone, they are red faced, flustered, misbehaved and full of flaws.

They are pseudo strong, because they are actually weak.

There are problems in our education. What we learn is not meaningless. Playing games and learning are two different things. In the era of thinking that games are poisons, I insist that entering Internet cafes does not mean that they are bad children.

Of course, the experience of love tells me that learning should be done, love should be talked about, and games should be played. It's just that you can't afford to lose the other. Class to listen to, homework to write, examination to the results.

So you see, compared with blindly chasing and blocking, how to guide children to deal with these things is what we should do.