Chapter 382

But in a strange city, they have nothing. If they want to compete with their competitors, they need to stand on tiptoe. It's much harder for them to do the dirtiest and most tiring work than the local people. But even so, they can't afford the high house price. If they can't afford to buy a house, they can't settle down in the city. Everything is nothing.

The young people who come back to the countryside can't give up their enthusiasm for the dilapidated countryside. They have seen the prosperity of the city. They know that they can't build it into such a city anyway, because the difference is too big. The backwardness of the countryside is in all aspects, not only the business model, but also the openness of the society. The difference is more than ten years.

Anyone can do something in ten years' time, but what can be changed if they throw their ten years into the backward countryside? It's just that they can't even turn up the waves.

There is no suitable job for them. They can only go to work in remote towns. In the eyes of the old people in rural areas, they are just a group of people who do not want to make progress. They do not like to go to factories, and they are not interested in doing farm work.

Fang Tianxing visited the streets here and found that many people are like this. Young people often work in remote towns or cities, and they don't pay much attention to the affairs in the village. However, Fang Tianxing's arrival also brings them a lot of feelings. It turns out that the countryside is hopeful, not a place without light, and occasionally sparkles.

Young people don't like to believe in the heavy work in the past. They don't like the hard life in the past. In the past, we always talked about hard work, but it was personal freedom to struggle or not. Why should we add hardship? It used to be hard because of the lack of material conditions in the past, but now the situation is totally different from the past, and the kind of hard work seems to be out of place today.

Old people still live the way they used to, but young people always want to live like city people. They pursue more self and can be more relaxed and natural. There is a big gap between the two.

Fang Tianxing helped Lao Huang out of poverty, which was supported by the masses here. Everyone was very enthusiastic about Fang Tianxing. People always invited Fang Tianxing to come to dinner every two or three days, and Fang Tianxing was also happy to accept it. It was only very soon that he found the contradiction between the old and young people in the village. Some young people were unwilling to support the old and did not care about the old, Some old people have deep conflicts with their families, which are difficult to resolve.

Fang Tianxing learned a lot about them. Many young people go back to their hometown no more than ten times a year, and meet no more than five times a year. They meet during the Spring Festival, and listen to their nagging about Zhang's parents' shortcomings and refresh their three outlooks. During the Spring Festival this year, Zhang San's grandmother told him which families in the village were divorced. Well, Zhang San's cousin didn't find a partner. She was disconsolate, Zhang San's new progress in divorce

Zhang San also knew how to listen to the old man's words and echoed her words. When you are old, you can stay in the village all the year round. There are fewer and fewer old people around you, and you can't see your grandchildren several times a year.

Zhang San can accept what the old man says. It's difficult for him to adjust his attitude towards the middle-aged people in the countryside. He plays mahjong and brags every day. Zhang San really can't say one more word to them.

It is because of this change that the two generations, especially those in rural areas, have great differences in talent and cognition, which can not be made up at all. That is to say, there are problems in communication between the two generations. This is an incidental result of the change, not a cause. Another result is that the younger generation can only stay in the economically developed areas suitable for their studies. Some of them are far away from the places where their elders grew up and live in this life, which leads to the old people keeping empty nests alone.

The spirit of the elderly is empty and lonely. People can often hear that the elderly are like children. This is because the elderly need more care and love. Those empty nesters are very empty and lonely because they have lost their wife and spiritual support.

Especially for the old people who have deep feelings between husband and wife, if one of them dies first, those who stay are likely to be too sad, leading to a trance.

There is an old lady next door to Lao Huang's family. She is very dependent on her husband and has a good relationship with her. Since her husband died, she has been in a state of apathy. One year later, they were unable to take care of themselves and their physiological functions declined sharply.

There are many elderly empty nesters in rural areas. Because of some physiological and mental reasons, they are seriously ill and bedridden and need people to wait on them all day.

But even if the children are very filial, they have their own farm work or work to complete, and they can't always be around the elderly.

Fang Tianxing found that many children who settled outside were unwilling to have a conversation with the old people, including men and women. Fang Tianxing found their contact information and wanted to know their situation.

They told Fang Tianxing that it's a helpless reality not to be with his parents. They can't live with the old people. It's not a question of whether they want to or not. It's a question of whether they can. They don't want to leave the countryside, they can't afford to buy a house outside, they can't settle them, and they don't know what they can do to make a living when they go home.

The generation gap between the two generations is so big that they don't want to talk to them at all. When parents are old, they just want to teach others, or ask questions. The main idea of almost every sentence is heard from childhood. Their knowledge and insight are very limited. I can't even give you a convincing guide on how to behave.

When you are upset, they don't understand why you are upset. They have food, clothing and a place to sleep. What do you worry about? They don't understand at all. Also slowly unwilling to communicate with them.

One of them is Ren Yiling. Ren Yiling's mother doesn't want to live with her and Ren Yiling's younger brother. She says that they always criticize themselves. In fact, Ren Yiling has tried her best to endure. For example, when her mother came to Shanghai and Ren Yiling, Ren Yiling cooked after work every day, but she was not allowed to eat leftovers. Several times later, her mother was dissatisfied and said, "you are my child.", Why should I listen to you.

Later Ren Yiling asked his mother to go home. It has been two years since Ren Yiling bought the dishwasher for his family and used it as a cupboard. Ren Yiling secretly asked his younger brother, has the dishwasher been turned on since he left? Ren Yiling's younger brother sighed and said to her that he had never opened it before. His mother thought it would be better to wash it by hand than to waste water and wash it for two hours at a time.

The microwave oven at home may have been bought for three years, but it hasn't been used. Ren Yiling's mother said that the microwave oven has radiation, so it doesn't need to be used.