Chapter 544： two more

The two walked to the corner of the bed, the girl looked at Ning Youguang and said, "I saw what my mother felt. People who don't grow up are really scary. She is always fixed in a thinking mode to the outside world, and she can't see it. She can't see the changes in the outside world, so she will always have only one way to treat others. For example, what I liked more than ten years ago, but now I don't like it. She doesn't seem to see it, she thought I like it very much, and then I don't need to do it, and she's angry that I don't accept what she gave me, the problem is that she doesn't understand at all, I don't like it anymore, and I don't need her to do it, I need her to do it Don't do it. She thinks she will do this and that if she doesn't need to do it. After I don't accept it, she is angry and unhappy again. I'm speechless, and I'm very tired to be with her."

"Then did you tell her that you don't like those?" Ning Youguang asked.

"Yes." The girl said, "I told her I didn't want it. She seemed to be completely blocked and couldn't hear it."

"She has a knot in her heart for a long time." Ning Youguang said, "It seems that some things have violated her heart, and she has not let go, which is similar to regret. , the reason why you don't want to face new things, is your mother not in good health?"

"Yes." The girl said, "During the Chinese New Year last year, my mother had an operation on a thyroid nodule, but this year the physical examination has grown again. Although the doctor said it was nothing, my brother and I were very worried."

Speaking of this, the girl was obviously anxious, "But my mother is not active in doing anything, taking medicine, and seeing a doctor. Every day I take medicine, my brother and I have to take turns calling and urging her, and she remembers it. Dad said that the traditional Chinese medicine prescribed by the hospital, she often boils the pot while she is simmering, and for this reason, my father and my mother quarreled a lot."

"There are many reasons why mom doesn't take active treatment or take medicine when she is sick." Ning Youguang said, "You have to ask her the specific reasons why this is happening."

"I asked." The girl said weakly, "Ask her and she said it's fine, it's okay, but I forgot, so my brother and I are really worried about my mother's Alzheimer's disease in the future, the problem is my mother Not only does she have nodules in her thyroid gland, she also has cerebral thrombosis, a tumor in her liver, and a whole body of disease. There is nothing to do at home now. Since she went to the physical examination and found out that she has such a problem, my dad no longer needs her to do anything. But she can't even take care of her own body, so my brother and I send her Wechat every day, it's better to make phone calls, if you forget it one day, maybe you won't remember."

The girl obviously felt very anxious and powerless, and the pain that she didn't know what to do appeared in her eyes.

Ning Youguang immediately comforted her and said, "Don't worry, it's alright."

She said, "Did you suggest that your mother see a psychiatrist?"

"Yes." The girl frowned, "I discussed it with my brother and my dad, but they don't seem to recommend that I see a psychiatrist."

"What about mother herself?" Ning Youguang asked again.

"My mother herself is silent. She doesn't talk about it, and she doesn't talk about it." The girl said.

"That's why Mom doesn't want to go." Ning Youguang chuckled, "She wasn't ready to face and solve her own problems at all."

"But my family is in a hurry." The girl said, "She takes medicine every day, her body is still the same, and she looks okay now, but the cancer is cut and swelled. She does not actively treat herself, and the growth rate is rapid. Soon... the problem is that she is a person, we don't listen to what we say, and she doesn't do it herself, so she just goes blind every day!"

The girl couldn't help sighing deeply.

Ning Youguang said, "Then chat with her often, whether it's you or your brother and father, you must chat with her often, you have to master what's in her mind, and she's willing to open it up. and acceptance, there are other possibilities."

"She's very evasive. When you ask her a question, everything will be fine, and then it will be brought to others." The girl said irritably, "I paid special attention to her and accompany her this summer vacation, but - at all I can't talk about the fundamental problem. As soon as I talk about her, she will run away. I will either rely on others, or I will tell you all the messy things that have happened for hundreds of years, or I will say that this is not good and that is not good. I am really angry. I don't have the patience to continue talking to her."

"If she is like this, no doctor may be able to help her." Ning Youguang was still warm.

The girl thought for a while and said, "Then let me think about how I should talk to her."

"It's very simple." Ning Youguang instructed the girl, "You just ask her if she is willing to face what she doesn't want to face. This is a great benefit to her health. Not ready."

"Will not and willing to have specific entry points to ask?"

"Ask her if she is willing to face the pain in her heart, and if she has the courage to face it, others can help her, at least it will help her body." Ning Youguang said, "But if my mother is not ready, she will forcefully pick it up. Open her and she'll be in pain."

"My brother and my dad said that my mother's personality was the main reason for her to become what she is today. I think it's mainly because of her personality."

"These are all speculations." Ning Youguang chuckled, "Let's find a professional doctor to see if you are willing."

"Okay." The girl sighed.

"Stop thinking about it." Ning Youguang said, "Since it can't be solved now, then wait for the opportunity."

"That's the only way." The girl really felt that there was nothing she could do to a person like her mother.

She thought so, and the expression on her face was like this.

Ning Youguang stretched out his hand, gently helped her to take off the two strands of hair that fell on her shoulders, and comforted her softly, "When facing some immature parents, as a grown child, you should Don't think that your mother can always be your mother, in fact, your mother is playing your child a lot of the time. Because if your mother is not taken care of by your mother and your husband, she will Let your child take care of her. So every time your mother is angry with you, every time she is dissatisfied with you, every time she complains to you, she is actually treating you as a mother and hoping from you Get some compliments here. She needs some attention from you, some response from you, and she's your baby, she's asking for help, she needs your love, she needs your care." 1314