Chapter 375

Dongfang Changming said with emotion: "brother, what you said is right."

"I work so hard just to be an ordinary person. To accept the ordinary is the most extraordinary thing that ordinary people do in their life. The most important thing in most people's life is to accept that they are ordinary people. " Xuanyuanfeng said to Dongfang Changming.

When everyone was born, they all thought that this world existed for him. When he found that he was wrong, he began to grow up. There are three times of growth in life. One is to find that you are no longer the center of the world. The other is to find that no matter how hard you try, there is nothing you can do. The third is to accept your own commonness and enjoy it.

The only success we don't recognize is the harmony of family and the insipidity of life. A lot of people always have a kind of glorious plot in their bones. They don't feel that they are not successful enough if they don't get into trouble.

But the real success should be diversified. Owning more than ten houses is a success. A family without quarrels and intrigues is also a success.

It's a success in some people's eyes to keep more than a dozen honey, but it's also a success to travel around the world with one's beloved. It's success to call the wind and rain in officialdom and workplace. It's also success for someone to devote their youth to children in need of help, or to find their own value in their own work.

Life is an experience, an experience. It depends on how you face it.

At the stage of reading, most people seldom encounter big setbacks and real problems. It also gives people the illusion that all problems can be solved as long as you work hard enough.

However, the more real the social environment is, the smaller the proportion of individual efforts in the results will be. Previously neglected family environment, personal accumulation, social relations and other things can not be obtained by short-term efforts, and ordinary people are not likely to get them. Because of scarcity, these things play an increasingly important role in the results.

People gradually find that some heights can never be reached by themselves, and some people can never surpass themselves. They will form a strong contrast with the cognition formed for a long time in the past and can't accept it all at once.

These two factors make it easy for people to get into such a corner, from the past self-confidence to inferiority, and deny the significance of past efforts because of inferiority, and then can not find the motivation to continue to work hard.

Since we have been working hard for such a long time, we still have such a setback. Why should we work hard? It's better to live a little easier.

Once this kind of mentality of breaking the pot comes into being, it is very difficult to go back to the past state of being full of chicken blood and positive. If it continues to get worse, there will be more negative and negative emotions. For example, they complain that God is unfair to them. For example, they deny others' achievements and attribute others' achievements to their family background. For example, they are cynical, narcissistic and self enclosed.

Today, Dongfang Changming went to a small company to deliver goods. Suddenly, he met his former classmate Yu Jianyi. He started a small company. After going through the difficulties in the early stage, the business of the company slowly got on the right track and began to make profits.

"It's really hard to start a business. Now Yu Jianyi's income is quite good compared with that of his peers, but the company is still too small. Maybe one day he will go bankrupt and find another way out." Yu Jianyi said with emotion.

Later, they talked about the state and feelings of Yu Jianyi University. Dongfang Changming listened to Yu Jianyi carefully, thought for a long time, and finally said: your requirements are too high, you will never be happy like this.

At first, Yu Jianyi didn't understand it, because he thought his demands were really not high. As long as he made money, he didn't have to worry about going bankrupt every day. Yu Jianyi didn't expect to be a millionaire either. He had a few hundred thousand a year, which was better than a well-off society.

Xuanyuanfeng said to him: "take your experience in University for example, I ask you, how many people can be admitted to Tsinghua in a year?"

Yu Jianyi said, "about 3000 people. He asked, how many examinees are there in the whole country for each college entrance examination? Yu Jianyi said that there are probably millions. "

"No matter how much you criticize the college entrance examination, the comprehensive quality of those who can get high marks in the college entrance examination will not be worse. Of the millions, only more than 3000 people can go to Tsinghua, which means that each of these 3000 people is almost one in a million, or even one in a hundred thousand, representing the highest level of the whole country. You deny it because you can't surpass the top students in this group of countries. If this is not demanding, what is demanding? "

All of a sudden, Yu Jianyi didn't know how to answer him. Because at that moment, Yu Jianyi realized that what Dongfang Changming said was a fact, which Yu Jianyi had been avoiding subconsciously.

In fact, Yu Jianyi was not satisfied when he was admitted to Tsinghua University. He also hoped to become the top small group of people in Tsinghua University. Not only should he study like this, but he had better not be inferior to others in his specialty, economy and every aspect. Once unable to achieve, they begin to be anxious, depressed, and even self denial.

Proper discontent is the source of human progress, but too discontent is insatiable. Why should you get what you want?

Some things, short time efforts can see the results. But a lot of things, it takes a long time of effort, plus luck to achieve - it may take a generation, or even generations of persistent efforts.

Yu Jianyi only saw that his classmates had a better family background than himself. He lived in a developed area and received a better education from childhood to adulthood. As a result, he could not catch up with others. I don't know that other people's money doesn't fall from the sky. It depends on the hard work of their parents and grandparents.

With your efforts now, you may be able to create the same growth environment for your next generation. But what you want is to enjoy the same treatment now and feel that the world is unfair to you.

But if you really can bridge the gap with the efforts of one person in a short period of time, what is fair to the efforts of several generations?

In the final analysis, anxiety is because they put forward unrealistic and irregular high requirements, are too self righteous, and do not recognize their own position.

When you completely focus on what you can't do, you will ignore what you have done, self affirmation will be weakened, and negation of yourself will occupy your heart. Once so, you will be more depressed, decadent, feel that they are nothing, and do not want to continue to work, into a vicious circle.

Yu Jianyi said: you only see that many students in Tsinghua University are better than you and are better than you in all aspects, but you don't see countless people like Yu Jianyi. They work very hard when they study, but in the end they can only go to a second rate school. You only see that your company's business is unstable and its profit is not enough, but you don't see that more than 100 companies may be losing money.