Chapter 331： Two more

Chapter 331 Two more

Xiaotian didn't want to answer.

But she didn't want Ning Youguang to think she looked like a fool, and didn't even know this, so she said, "What else? Isn't it just like being liked, envied, and praised by others."

"Completely correct." Ning Youguang recognized her answer very much, "Then do you know the deep-seated reason behind this behavior?"

Xiaotian thought about it and said, "I like this kind of life very much."

Ning smiled brightly, "You can say that."

Xiaotian asked, "Then what do you think it is?"

"The deep-seated reasons are written in their photos and words." Ning Youguang said. "Everywhere they say, 'I'm going to prove to myself that I'm worthy of this life, my house, my job and my lover, that I'm worth, loving, meaningful'."

This is also the saddest reason.

People tend to show off what they lack.

The life in the social network is getting better and better, and the distance from reality is getting bigger and bigger, and our hearts are getting more and more disappointed, anxious, empty and divided.

Psychological research has found that the use of social networks reduces human happiness, not because we think others are happier than me, but when we are happier than others, we feel that we are not so happy!

Xiaotian fell silent.

Ning Youguang continued, "Behind this proof, there is also a sense of existence. Why should a person brush their sense of existence? It's because their inner sense of value is insufficient."

"Insufficient sense of intrinsic value?" Xiaotian asked, "Why is this happening?"

"Because they were often neglected, suppressed, or compared with other children's children by their parents or caregivers during childhood, their sense of existence was not satisfied." Ning Youguang said, "Especially Some people were compared and suppressed when they were young, and they thought they were poor, so they were not liked by others, but showing off can prove that they are excellent, so that they can be liked by others.”

"Presence is something everyone needs, but it manifests itself in different forms in everyone:

Some people prove their importance by helping others, some people prove that they are better than others by belittling others, and some people prove their worth by surpassing others. There is only one goal behind all these behaviors. That is to let more people 'see themselves', and for this 'seeing', they make every effort to show off their wealth, buy famous brands, and climb to a higher level.... "

In fact, the real psychological reason for showing off her wealth is that her caregivers and important people in her life owe her a lot of attention.

She was ignored.

Maybe many people will feel hateful and disgusted when they see such people, but as a psychologist, in Ning Youguang's heart, her feelings for Xiaotian are an understanding and distress

If a person can truly realize his own value in his heart, he will not show off his wealth.

In fact, they do this just to prove that:

"I am important, I am worthy of being loved."

"You don't ignore me."

…

The girl's suppressed crying came from the quiet office.

Ning Youguang got up and walked to the cabinet, took out a pack of napkins and placed it on Xiaotian's legs quietly, then she didn't do anything.

Waiting for Xiaotian to change from suppressed crying to wailing and then to the interval between crying, which lasted for more than ten minutes, Ning Youguang waited quietly.

Xiaotian covered her face after crying and took out a napkin to wipe her face. She had already taken off her black sunglasses.

After all, she is an internet celebrity, her makeup skills are very good, the makeup is very delicate, and it is also very waterproof.

She cried for so long, and her face was not too ugly.

However, even through thick makeup, Ning Youguang could see her thick dark circles from her eyes that were not covered by sunglasses.

and her sunken cheeks.

She suddenly discovered that the girl's foundation was actually very good.

It was said on the Internet that she had plastic surgery. She took a closer look and found that her nose was bumped, her chin was padded, and the corners of her eyes were opened, but aside from this part of the plastic surgery, she could see that her natural face was also very beautiful.

The facial features of the face are smooth and delicate, and the unevenness is also a little beauty.

The whole thing is a bit less elegant, and a bit more tacky and plastic.

is a bit of a loss.

When Ning Youguang quietly observed Xiaotian, Xiaotian's mood gradually stabilized.

"Mr. Ning, I think you're right. The reason why I pursue material things so strongly is that my family has a great influence on me. My family conditions are average. Since I was a child, my parents hardly gave me pocket money, and I wore too expensive clothes. I can't afford it. When I was in high school, my mother was still ill, and it was even more difficult for my family. One year for the New Year, my parents didn't have the money to buy me new clothes, so they took a bunch of my cousin's old clothes for me to wear. , I was wearing her old clothes to school at that time, and I felt very embarrassed, but I was embarrassed to tell my classmates that I didn't buy new clothes for the new year, so I chose two newer clothes from my cousin's old clothes to wear to school. school, and told my classmates that this is my new year's clothes, but my classmates said that the clothes looked old at first, and I felt too embarrassed at the time. Later, I became very fond of buying clothes, shoes, and shopping. Bags, shopping for all kinds of shopping..." She said, "You know what? I especially like to wear new brand names and dress up to meet my high school classmates, because I think it will make me The stigma of high school was wiped away."

"I can understand." Ning Youguang said, "I think it is normal for this kind of mentality to appear, and many people have this stage."

Xiaotian added, "Yes, and also, my parents have always felt that I am inferior to others and like double standards. No matter what I do, it is not good, what I say is wrong, but people outside do what they do. It's all right, and everything makes sense. Since they like others so much, why don't they become their parents and give birth to me? Now that I'm like this, they like to go around and tell others that I don't All right."

She laughed at herself, "I don't care anymore, anyway, I think they caused me to be like this today. Since I'm not happy, then everyone should stop trying to be happy."

After listening to her words, Ning Youguang said softly, "All human actions are for the pursuit of happiness. Happiness is a feeling that belongs to our heart. It cannot be rationally analyzed or scientifically explained. , let alone compare. To achieve happiness, there are two core elements, either satisfying desire or stopping desire, we must choose one or the other.”1314

(end of this chapter)